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3 Things To Consider Before You Send That Sext

by Aly Walansky

While sexting may seem like the brave new world of flirtation, there's a lot to consider before hitting send on that dirty text or naughty photo. If it ends up on the internet, would you be OK with that? Or, suggests sex expert Laurel House, do you know them well enough that they won’t see you as one-dimensionally interested in sex? Just like actually having sex, when it comes to sexting, open your mouth before you open your legs, says House. Be emotionally vulnerable before you get sexually vulnerable.

"The litmus test I use before sending text involves one simple question: Would I be upset if my mom saw this?" says Astroglide's resident sexologist, Dr. Jess.

Obviously, no one wants their mom to ever come across their sexts, but there are some precautions you can take to make your sexts more mom-safe. "And by mom-safe, I mean you should only send sexts in which your mom would be unable to recognize you should they ever be leaked," says Dr. Jess.

1. Leaving Your Face Out Of All Shots

Take close-ups, says Dr. Jess. "This is a great way to keep your partner-in-sexting guessing as well as help disguise your identity. I have clients who go as far as adding fake tattoos to anonymize their photos, as you can never be too cautious," says Dr. Jess.

2. Leaving Something To The Imagination

If the first pic you send is a hot shot of your entire body or genitals, you leave no space for build-up and anticipation. "Move gradually and make sexting about teasing, so that the grande finale is even hotter," says Dr. Jess.

3. Cleaning Up Your Room

If you’re taking pics in your bedroom at least feign good hygiene by hiding the mess in the background, says Dr. Jess. Nobody looks hot in front of old pizza boxes and dirty socks strewn about the room.

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