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12 Sex Toys That Will Change Your Life

by Aly Walansky

Most of us have a toy chest under our bed, and have since high school. And we of course have our favorite toys, and ones that work better than others. But with so much more new, innovative technology out there than ever before, we're all wondering where to buy the best sex toys these days.

"Everyone should own a vibrator. Learning about your body, your likes and dislikes via masturbation is a timeless tool that will help you well into your adult years, especially when it comes to communicating with your partners," says Moushumi Ghose. One person's favorite may be another's "eh" — the most important thing is that you find the right toy for you.

This search is not without its complications. It's been said that many men often feel threatened by sex toys, and could stand to learn that sex toys can enhance sexual pleasure for both them and their partner. Indeed, sex toys for men are increasingly popular. “Sex toys can broaden your idea of what sex is. Too often we think of sex as just being intercourse. Sex toys can help you recognize the broader depth of human sexuality, and get your exploring and learn more about yourself,” says Ghose.

1. NJoy Pure Wand

“If you’ve never played with G-spot stimulation, NJoy's Pure Wand is the go-toy toy in my personal kit. You can choose from 'small' and 'enthusiastic' ends, which lets you play with your body in so many ways,” says Lee Harrington, writer and educator on sexuality.

It's weighty, easy to clean, has a great curve so you won't hurt your wrist while you slide it back and forth, and it's beautiful, too. I also love that guys can enjoy it as well — that great curve can give the prostate the same delight. Just remember the lube.

NJoy Pure Wand, $76, Amazon

2. Crave Vesper

The Crave Vesper is a cool-looking necklace that's also a vibrator. "It's sexy, it's fun and it's gadget-y. It's like James Bond sex and it can feel daring for folks trying to come out of their sexual shells," says JoEllen Notte, a writer and educator.

Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace, $69, Babeland

3. A Blindfold

It’s amazing how much taking away one sense can heighten all of the others! A stroke of the skin becomes a moment of sensual connection, while a whisper in the ear becomes deeply intimate. Harrington suggests setting up a night where you can spend part of the play blindfolded and then trade. Getting a chance to both give and receive focused touch can remind all parties of how much it matters to set the world aside when in bed.

Kinklab Blindfold, $16, Amazon

4. Great Lube

In our culture, women are taught that we “should” be able to make all the lubrication we need. That's a lie. Everyone should get to try out a variety of lubes — Harrington says that water-based and silicone-based lubes are particularly safe for both condoms and your overall health. You’ll be amazed at how you feel during different types of stroking or penetrative play as you try out a bunch of different types. Some feel silkier, some help you last longer, and some even have different scents. Find out which one is best for you through experimentation. Make a multi-night sexy game out of it!

Babelube Silicone Lubricant, $22, Babeland

4. Hello Touch X

Jimmyjane's Hello Touch X is neat because it gives you two ways to play. "Worn on the fingers, it can be used as a fingertip vibrator or an electrostimulator. It's perfect for folks who are a little kink-curious," says Notte.

Hello Touch X Fingertip Vibrator, $66, Amazon

5. Hitachi Magic Wand

The Hitachi Magic Wand has been a tried-and-true go-to for many women since 1968. Designed as a standard massage tool, it quickly became the most highly-recommended vibrator of all time. It’s heavy, large, loud, and cumbersome, but also extremely powerful and effective. “Most users will tell you direct stimulation is too much, as the Hitachi is just that powerful. So place a towel between your body and the Hitachi itself,” says Dr. Laurie Bennett-Cook of Kinkucation.

"Once I found the Magic Wand, I could never put it down. I can cum every single time from using it. It stimulates one of the most sensitive parts of my body: my clit,” says British porn star Tanya Tate.

Hitatchi Magic Wand, $54, Amazon

6. The We-Vibe 4 Plus

The We-Vibe 4 Plus is fantastic little vibrator that you can take anywhere. It is sleek, quiet, and provides internal and external stimulation. It can be used with a partner or alone. If used with a partner, it provides stimulation on insertion, says Bennett-Cook.

We-Vibe 4 Plus Vibrator, $109, Amazon

7. The Rabbit Habit

You probably have known about the Rabbit since Sex and the City, and it remains a favorite for a reason. The rabbit ears "flutter" against the clit. How's that for a surprise in your Easter basket?

Rabbit Habit Deluxe, $90, Amazon

8. Liberator Pillows

Liberator foam pillows are a fantastic way to comfortably elevate the body for more fun positions. Many even look like decorative pillows you’d place on your bed, says Bennett-Cook.

Liberator Heart Wedge Pillow, $80, Amazon

9. Svakom Gaga Camera Vibrator

Ever really wish you could take a vagina selfie? Well, here's your chance! Svakom Gaga Camera Vibrator allows you to Facetime from inside your vagina, says Dr. Michael Krychman of the Sexual Health Center.

Svakom Gaga Camera Vibrator, $89, Amazon

10. Doxy Wand

The Doxy Wand is the wand-style vibrator so many people know and love — just stronger, sexier, and with more options. "I say taking out the Doxy is the masturbatory equivalent of Babe Ruth calling his shot!" says Notte. Their new version is coming soon, and it's titanium with a silicone head.

Doxy Wand Vibrator, $149.99, Amazon

11. L'Amourose Rosa

The L'amourose Rosa is really unique. It has two strong motors — one in the insertable portion and one in the base that can stimulate the entire clitoral/perineal/vulvar region. This toy was made with anatomy in mind.

L'amourose, $84, Amazon

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