8 Tricks for Having Better Orgasms (That Have Nothing to Do With Skills)

Vibrators and shackles are one thing, but when it comes to great orgasms, they’re definitely not the be-all end-all of incredible sex. Often, better orgasms have nothing to do with skill set in the bedroom and everything to do with seemingly unrelated factors that can either intensify your sex drive or dampen your sex drive. If you’re not getting the biggest bang out of your orgasms, shift your focus away from your sex toys and instead take a look at some key lifestyle choices that lead to better orgasms.

Even though there’s a few feet of distance between the two, your brain and your genitalia have a whole lot to do with each other. Hormones have a lot of say as to whether your down-there feels like a blazing fire of passion or the Sahara Desert, and your daily habits have a lot to do with the secretion of those hormones.

If you’re getting a great night’s rest, tackling stress in a healthy way, doing things that you enjoy, and getting enough exercise, your cortisol, testosterone, and endorphins will be in just the right balance to create earth-shattering orgasms. On the other hand, if you’re perpetually tired, anxious, dehydrated, and upset — well, you might end up a little less than satisfied in the sack. Here’s a list of small lifestyle changes you can implement that lead to better and more intense orgasms, even if they’re seemingly unrelated at first.

Relax And Increase Oxytocin Levels With A Massage

Aura Cacia Lavender Body Oil, $8, Amazon

Touching another human being releases the hormone oxytocin, which intensifies orgasms. Encourage a little contact with this Aura Cacia lavender body oil. It’s made with healthy, natural oils and loads of lavender essentials (which has been shown to promote relaxation) to create a smooth texture and a soothing aroma that’s sure to ignite the senses. Reviewers say it’s extra moisturizing, feels wonderful on the skin, smells incredible, and a little goes a very long way.

Get Your Circadian Rhythm Back On Track

Philips Sunrise Simulation Wake-Up Light, $60, Amazon

Testosterone levels (both in males and females) lead to a better sex life, and if your hormones are off due to a compromised circadian rhythm, odds are your orgasms aren’t too mind blowing. This Philips sunrise simulation wake-up light gradually fills your bedroom with a sun-mimicking light in the morning, which helps you to awaken slowly, naturally, and in higher spirits. It’s intended to help reset your natural rhythms, so you wake up fresh and rested, and it also has ten brightness settings, a snooze button, a clock display, and a gentle back-up beep for extra heavy sleepers.  

Work In Some Low-Impact Exercise

Stamina 36 inch Folding Trampoline, $40, Amazon

Exercise heightens your ability to have great orgasms, because it releases endorphins, improves circulation, and balances your hormones; one study even showed that after 20 minutes of cycling, a group of women showed a significant increase in sexual desire. This Stamina 36-inch folding trampoline is ideal for rebounding, which is a low-impact high-intensity workout that burns more calories than jogging while stimulating lymph movement and circulation. The steel frame is durable and strong, the tension bands are easy on your joints, and the whole thing folds up and disassembles for easy travel and storage.

Up Your Testosterone Levels With Less Dairy

The Dairy-Free Kitchen, $15, Amazon

According to Dr. Michael Hirt, “Certain foods can lower testosterone levels. The foods that are most likely to do so include cheese [and] yogurt,” because they increase the activity of the enzyme aromatase. That means a lower sex drive, and less powerful orgasms. Lower your cheese intake with the The Dairy-Free Kitchen, which is a cookbook filled with delicious and easy recipes without lactose and casein. Learn how to make your favorites — just leave the dairy out. Reviewers say they hardly tasted the difference, and this book became a reference staple in their kitchen.

Conquer Dehydration And Boost Your Libido


Dr. Rosemary's Lovers Instinct Tea Therapy, $19, Amazon

Dehydrated? Drinking primarily diuretics like coffee and soda zap moisture right out of your body, which leads to headaches, irritability, and the inability to produce natural lubrication during sex. For a caffeine-free alternative that helps to boost your libido, there’s Dr. Rosemary's lovers instinct tea therapy. It’s crafted from six special and natural herbs that help to promote relaxation, lessen stress, balance hormones, and stimulate desire. Best of all, reviewers say it tastes incredible, and it comes with a free heart-shaped infuser.

Stay Cool At Night For Better, Sex-Boosting Sleep

Oosilk Mulberry Silk Pillowcase, $23, Amazon

As soon as you’re the slightest bit sleep deprived, your testosterone levels plummet and cortisol goes way up, which definitely puts a damper on your sex life. According to scientists at Charlottesville Neurology & Sleep Medicine, great sleep happens when your body starts to cool off at night. This top-rated pillowcase is crafted with from mulberry silk — the highest quality silk that exists — and the cooling fabric allows your body to maintain a more comfortable temperature all night long, whether you're sleeping, or you know, doing other stuff.

Improve Your Mood With Convenient Wireless Music

Avido Multi-Color LED Light Show Bluetooth Speaker, $30, Amazon

A recent study found that listening to upbeat music has the potential to improve your mood — and it also has the potential to put you in the mood. This Avido multi-color LED light show bluetooth speaker hooks up to your phone or device within a matter of seconds — no fumbling with wires when you could be fumbling with clothing. It’s also portable, lightweight, performs its own little light show with LEDs, has an eight-hour rechargeable battery, and sounds clear and professional.  

Meditate The Auditory Way To Decrease Cortisol

Maha Bodhi Resonance Tibetan Meditation Singing Bowl, $30, Amazon

Tibetan singing bowls have acted as a method of meditation for hundreds of years, and a recent study shows why: the sound resonates with droplets of moisture, causing them to vibrate at a particular frequency, and because our bodies are 60 percent water, we react, too. This Maha Bodhi resonance Tibetan meditation singing bowl is a great way to meditate, relax, reduce stress, and lower cortisol levels (the stress hormone) that dampen your sex drive. It’s handcrafted from high-quality brass, beautifully decorated, omits a soothing and healing sound, and comes with a wooden mallet, a suede cushion, and a homemade paper box for storage.

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