Emma McGowan is a sex positive feminist whose hobbies include oversharing on the internet, connecting with other women and femmes, and reading at least three books a week. She moves to a new country every three to nine months and only sometimes misses Vermont. Her work has appeared in Mashable, Mic, The Bold Italic, The Daily Dot's The Kernel, and her own site, Kink&Code.

Emma’s Latest Articles

What To Know About Planned Parenthood's #PinkOutDay

Wednesday, March 29, Planned Parenthood is planning a Pink Out Day. Yup, you read that right — a pink out. The constantly embattled reproductive rights organization is looking to send a message to lawmakers that their support is vast and the way they’re doing it is by covering the internet in what they’re calling “Planned Parenthood pink.” The move comes in response to the defeat of the Republican health care bill, which included a provision to temporarily stop federal funding to Planned Parenth…

By Emma McGowan

Should You Open A Joint Bank Account With Your Partner?

Money is a feminist issue — and yet, women are still reluctant to talk about it. According to a recent Bustle survey of more than 1,000 millennial women, more than 50 percent of people said they never discuss personal finances with friends, even though 28 percent reported feeling stressed out about money every single day. That’s why Bustle launched Grown-A$$ Finances, a series that gets real about what millennial women are doing with their money, and why — because managing your money should feel…

By Emma McGowan

Why It's Crucial To Have A Variety Of Relationships

You’ve heard of the idea of “The One.” The one who completes you. The one who fulfills your every need. The perfectly matched soulmate who you should seek until you find — and then never let you go. Your best friend, co-parent, lover — your everything. Well, that model? That supposed ideal? It’s toxic. “The healthiest relationships are those in which both partners have full and satisfying lives, or at the very least, have interests and friendships outside of the couple relationship,” Allison Abr…

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16 Alternatives To "Girlfriend" Or "Boyfriend"

I hate using the word “boyfriend.” Something about it is just so… Infantilizing. I mean, we’re both over 30 and we’ve been together for four years. He’s not a boy; I’m not a girl; and there’s a part of me that feels like referring to each other as “girlfriend” and “boyfriend” makes our relationship seem less serious. Sure, we’re not married yet but that doesn’t mean we’re not in a long-term relationship with joint credit cards and lease agreements and all that other grown-up stuff. It just seems…

By Emma McGowan

Here's How Arianna Huffington Will Get You A Date

What if Arianna Huffington was your auntie — and helped you find a partner? In some cultures, “aunties” are essential to the marriage process. These aunties either approve of potential spouses or straight out pick matches for the young people in their life. Either way, you don’t make an approved match without the aunties being involved. And while we don’t have a prevailing auntie culture in America (although obviously plenty of subcultures do), the feminist dating app SIREN has found a way to br…

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What Sex & Abortion Were Like *Before* Roe v. Wade

My mom had sex for the first time in 1967. I had sex the first time in 2002 — and the differences between my experiences as a sexually active teen and my mom’s are stark. I had really good sex education in school, even under Bush’s administration. I had sex-positive, supportive parents who made sure I was well-informed and had access to multiple forms of birth control. And I’ve always lived in a world where abortion was legal, safe, and relatively easy to access. My mom, on the other hand, had n…

By Emma McGowan

11 Ways To Keep Being A Nasty Woman

At the very end of the last presidential debate between Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton last October, Trump interrupted Clinton to call her a “nasty woman.” I’m sure he didn’t know in the moment that those two words would become a female empowerment message and come back to haunt him. From signs at the Women’s March to t-shirts emblazoned in all caps to memes upon memes, “nasty woman” has been cropping up everywhere, with no signs of stopping. But what does it mean to be a nasty woman? “Nasty” …

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7 Sexual Stereotypes And Why They're False

All men are dogs. Good women don’t sleep around. Any guy who touches another guy is secretly gay. Bisexuals are just slutty. Girls only make out with other girls for attention. Do those statements make you angry? They should — they’re persistent, harmful, and false sexual stereotypes. Sex is one of those areas where we can’t seem to help not only passing judgment on other people’s behavior but also placing them in massive groups based on what they like to do with their genitals. But luckily, th…

By Emma McGowan

Where Do Our Desires Come From?

Kink has made its way from back rooms and hidden dungeons and burst its way into the mainstream in recent years. And while many long-term kinksters are vocal about their dislike of the Fifty Shades series, there’s no denying that it has awakened some previously dormant (or at least kept more secret) sexual desires in people across the world. This newly-popular status for sexual interests that were previously deemed “deviant” brings up a lot of questions, the biggest of which is: Where do kinks c…

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13 Pieces Of Sex-Positive Protest Gear

The Women’s March on January 21, 2017 was an historic moment, with millions of people marching around the world the day after Trump was sworn into office. And from photos on the ground to aerial ones showing the massive crowds, there was one standout piece of protest gear: The handmade bright pink “pussy hat.” The hats were a grassroots, direct response to Trump’s comments last year that he could grab women “by the pussy” because he’s famous. In the weeks leading up to the Women’s March, women …

By Emma McGowan