Emma McGowan is a sex positive feminist whose hobbies include embroidery, sewing ridiculous clothing, oversharing on the internet, connecting with other women and femmes, and reading at least three books a week. Her work has appeared in Mashable, Mic, The Bold Italic, The Daily Dot's The Kernel, and her own site, Kink&Code.

Latest Articles

New York City Now Has A Resistance-Themed Bar

If you’re anything like me, the 2016 election, the inauguration, and the subsequent quick succession of executive orders that seemed aimed at destroying everything I love about America have driven you...
By Emma McGowan

The Puberty Videos You Should've Seen Before Going To Camp

The weather is heating up. The sun is shining. Kids can see the finish line for the school year — and families are thinking about summer camp. While I was the Wednesday Addams of my summer sleep away ...
By Emma McGowan

7 Ways To *Actually* Celebrate Women's Health Week

President Trump is all about helping women this week — or at least that’s what a Mother's Day statement from the White House kicking off Women's Health Week would have us a believe. Women’s Health Wee...
By Emma McGowan

What Happens To Women In States With Only One Abortion Clinic

Abortion is a constitutionally protected medical procedure in the United States of America. Despite that fact, there are a growing number of restrictions to access to abortion across the country. And ...
By Emma McGowan

This Is When It's Time To End A "Happy" Relationship

A couple I’m close with recently broke up after almost a decade together. They were high school sweethearts and, from the outside at least, were the romantic dream. Without going in to too much detail...
By Emma McGowan

7 Things To Tell Yourself When You're Waiting For Someone To Text You Back

Waiting for someone to text you back sucks. The thoughts that run through you’re head when you’re in those initial stages of dating someone — the stages when you don’t really know them yet and you def...
By Emma McGowan

Being A Woman Is A "Pre-Existing Condition" In Trump's America

The House of Representatives passed the American Health Care Act on Thursday, and one thing is clear: In Trump’s America, being a woman is a “preexisting condition.” And if this law passes the Senate,...
By Emma McGowan

Why Some Women Love These Sex Toys

The jury is definitely still out on on butt stuff for a lot of people. For people with penises, anal penetration makes total sense because of the prostate gland, which gets stimulated and — I’ve been ...
By Emma McGowan

Sexy Discounts And Freebies For Lover's Day

You all have heard of Valentine’s Day, of course, but did you know there’s another day that celebrates love? That’s right — April 23 is Lover’s Day and it’s perfect for all of you who didn’t get enoug...
By Emma McGowan

This Is When You Reach Your Sexual Peak

I’ve always heard that men hit their sexual peak at age 17 and women at age 35 — and I didn’t really question it. But if you think about it for a minute, that’s pretty terrible news for women who have...
By Emma McGowan

What To Do If You & Your Partner Aren't Into The Same Things In Bed

You meet a new person — and they’re awesome. They’re cute and funny and fun and you can feel yourself falling for them. Maybe you already have! And then you get into bed and you roll over for a little...
By Emma McGowan

Planned Parenthood Responds After Trump Signs A Bill Threatening Health Care

Thought Planned Parenthood was safe after the Obamacare replacement bill failed to pass last month? Think again. Today, President Trump signed a measure that could potentially strip Title X funds from...
By Emma McGowan

9 Bouquets To Celebrate Spring

What says “spring time” better than a beautiful bouquet of freshly cut flowers? Regardless of the climate in your part of the country, it feels good to celebrate the official start of spring. Luckily,...
By Emma McGowan

7 Alternatives To Traditional Marriage

What does it mean to have a successful marriage? Many would say a successful marriage is one that’s literally “death do us part,” only ending when one half of the couple dies. We describe divorce as a...
By Emma McGowan

7 Ways To Split Household Expenses With Your Partner

Money is a feminist issue — and yet, women are still reluctant to talk about it. According to a recent Bustle survey of more than 1,000 millennial women, more than 50 percent of people said they never...
By Emma McGowan

What To Know About Planned Parenthood's #PinkOutDay

Wednesday, March 29, Planned Parenthood is planning a Pink Out Day. Yup, you read that right — a pink out. The constantly embattled reproductive rights organization is looking to send a message to law...
By Emma McGowan

Should You Open A Joint Bank Account With Your Partner?

Money is a feminist issue — and yet, women are still reluctant to talk about it. According to a recent Bustle survey of more than 1,000 millennial women, more than 50 percent of people said they never...
By Emma McGowan

Why It's Crucial To Have A Variety Of Relationships

You’ve heard of the idea of “The One.” The one who completes you. The one who fulfills your every need. The perfectly matched soulmate who you should seek until you find — and then never let you go. Y...
By Emma McGowan

16 Alternatives To "Girlfriend" Or "Boyfriend"

I hate using the word “boyfriend.” Something about it is just so… Infantilizing. I mean, we’re both over 30 and we’ve been together for four years. He’s not a boy; I’m not a girl; and there’s a part o...
By Emma McGowan

Here's How Arianna Huffington Will Get You A Date

What if Arianna Huffington was your auntie — and helped you find a partner? In some cultures, “aunties” are essential to the marriage process. These aunties either approve of potential spouses or stra...
By Emma McGowan

The Way To Supercharge Your Sex Life In 2017

The New Year is a great time to make changes — that’s what New Year’s resolutions are all about, right? But while all of your friends are resolving to finally start working out regularly or change the...
By Emma McGowan

Why Hard Times In Your Relationship Are Important

Our culture loves to romanticize the “perfect” romantic relationship. You know what I’m talking about: the married couple that got together in high school and are still going strong 20 years later; th...
By Emma McGowan

Can You Be Friends With An Ex If You Have An S.O.?

I’m one of those people who tries to stay friends with my exes — to varying degrees of success. My philosophy is that I’ve invested so much time, energy, and love into these people and it would be a w...
By Emma McGowan

11 Topics To Talk About That Aren't Your Love Life

Are you sick of people asking you all the time about your relationship status?  Or maybe you have that one friend who can’t seem to talk about anything else? I feel you. As a woman, I feel sometimes l...
By Emma McGowan

How To Create New Holiday Traditions With Your SO

My boyfriend and I were talking to a friend about our plans for Christmas the other day. I offhandedly said, “Oh, we’re just going to do what we always do,” and it wasn’t until later that I realized h...
By Emma McGowan

9 Christmas Foods That Are Also Aphrodisiacs

My associations with Christmas dinner don’t have anything to do with sex. I think of family, too much champagne, and stuffing my face until all I want to do is recline on the couch with my little brot...
By Emma McGowan

Why You Might Not Be Into Casual Sex

Being able to have casual sex might just be one of the greatest things about being alive in the United States in this day and age. I mean, sex out of wedlock was generally frowned upon before the sexu...
By Emma McGowan

Why You Should Consider Getting This For Your Mom

My mom offered to buy me a vibrator when I was 13. At the time, I was totally grossed out — like, EW MOM! — but in retrospect, that was an awesome, sex positive, badass thing for her to do. She realiz...
By Emma McGowan

11 Sex Toys To Give Your Relationship

The holidays aren’t a particularly sexy time of year. From a lot of enforced family time to bulky layer upon bulky layer before we get to the nudity to all the stress, it wouldn’t be weird if sex fell...
By Emma McGowan

7 Reasons Why Winter Is The Best Season For Sex

Right when the leaves turned from bright green to brilliant oranges and reds and suddenly everyone began wearing flannel, I started dreaming of having winter sex. This past summer was one of the hotte...
By Emma McGowan

7 Self-Care Tips When Your Partner Is Depressed

Dealing with a partner’s depression is really, really hard. On the one hand, you know that what they’re going through is not their fault. On the other hand, it’s difficult not to feel hurt when they p...
By Emma McGowan

Love Languages Might Save Your Relationship

My boyfriend and I recently resolved a conflict that we’ve had since we first started dating. On the face of things, it’s pretty simple: I want him to tell me he loves me and give me more compliments ...
By Emma McGowan

Where To Have Sex This Week

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having sex in a bed. In fact, I’d even say it’s my favorite spot, mainly because I’m generally lazy and not terribly flexible. But sometimes nothing is better th...
By Emma McGowan

13 Sexy Stocking Stuffers For $20 And Under

I don’t know about you, but my family is really into stocking stuffers. My grandma is so into them that she wraps each individual one, which is kind of awesome because you get to open way more present...
By Emma McGowan

Black Friday Sex Toy Deals You Don't Want To Miss

Personally, nothing sounds worse to me than shopping on Black Friday: I hate large crowds, I hate lines, and I’m usually hungover on the day after Thanksgiving. However, I do love saving money, which ...
By Emma McGowan

13 Grassroots Organizations To Donate To Right Now

The day after the election, I donated to Planned Parenthood. It wasn’t the first time I’d done that — they were my primary healthcare provider in the years that I had no money and as soon as I could, ...
By Emma McGowan

9 Sex Toys To Give Your BFF For The Holidays

My best friend broke up with her partner of five years last Fall. While she was going through a particularly rough time this summer, I was dealing with some stuff in my own relationship and her suppor...
By Emma McGowan

This Is A Next Level Safety Pin

I have an awesome new addition to the #SafetyPin movement that I think you’re going to love as much as I do: The Ally Pin from Unbound. But before I get into why I love it, here’s a quick recap of the...
By Emma McGowan

#MomentOfTruth Is For Anyone Who Is Scared Now

Emily May started thinking about what she and her organization, Hollaback! — which documents and combats street harassment around the world — were going to about the hate that now President-elect Dona...
By Emma McGowan

7 Tips For Boosting Your Confidence In Bed

Do you think you’re great in bed? If your answer is something along the lines of “Well… Maybe?” you’re not alone. According to the SKYN Condoms Millennial Sex Survey, only 45 percent of Millennials sa...
By Emma McGowan