Emma McGowan is a sex positive feminist whose hobbies include embroidery, sewing ridiculous clothing, oversharing on the internet, connecting with other women and femmes, and reading at least three books a week. Her work has appeared in Mashable, Mic, The Bold Italic, The Daily Dot's The Kernel, and her own site, Kink&Code.

Latest Articles

There's A Shocking Number Of Fake Abortion Clinics & Here's What You Can Do

Have you ever felt the call to go counter-protest at an abortion clinic? You know — protest the protestors? I have. I think that what abortion clinic protestors do is wrong and part of me absolutely i...
By Emma McGowan

What You Need To Know About Vacation Flings

Vacation. It’s a time for kicking back, relaxing, maybe getting some sun — and having a vacation fling. Vacation flings have the potential to go so many ways, from excellent to “meh” to terrifying. Th...
By Emma McGowan

How To Actually Meet Someone When You're On Vacation

Summertime — and the lovin’ is easy. (Wait, is that not how that lyric goes?) It’s always how it went for me, back when I was single. Starting in sixth grade I would dump my school year boyfriend beca...
By Emma McGowan

What The Abortion Rights Movement Can Learn From The Marriage Equality Win

There are two major issues that have to do with sexuality in our culture: Abortion rights and marriage equality. And while the country finally got marriage equality two years ago, abortion rights have...
By Emma McGowan

This Woman Is Giving Unsolicited NSFW Pics The Audience They Deserve

Picture this: You walk into a funky apartment. It’s got a real ‘70s vibe — a breakfast nook with vintage patio furniture, an avocado-colored fridge, a bed covered in denim with hand-embroidered throw ...
By Emma McGowan

Why Pride Is So Political This Year

For years and years, the quest for marriage equality was the main focus of mainstream LGBTQ organizations. An unbelievable amount of time and money went into the fight and, on June 26, 2015, activists...
By Emma McGowan

19 LGBTQIA+ Millennials On How Straight People Can Be Better Allies

Ally. It's a word that gets thrown around a lot, especially in the age of Trump. People are feeling really motivated to step outside of their own privilege and get involved in movements that are lifti...
By Emma McGowan

7 LGBTQ Millennials On What Pride Means To Them This Year

June is Pride month because in 1969 a group of queer people — led by trans women of color and lesbians — fought back after suffering years of abuse from the police. On June 28 of that year, police rai...
By Emma McGowan

11 Crucial Moments In The History Of The Reproductive Rights Movement

I’m one of those women who basically always thinks she’s pregnant. Seriously — at least once every month, some part of my brain convinces me that I must be pregnant, despite the fact that I’m really c...
By Emma McGowan

What Your Relationship Status Says About Your Sleep Habits

Oh, sleep — the unspoken battleground of the cohabitating couple. He steals the blankets. She talks in her sleep. He snores. She kicks him in the nuts a couple times per year. He occasionally has nigh...
By Emma McGowan

13 Funny Pride Sign Ideas

For me, the best part of Pride parades has always been the costumes. From drag queens with massive wigs and even taller shoes to pretty boys in assless chaps to drag kings in fake mustaches, you’ll fi...
By Emma McGowan

The Easy Way To Bring More Laughter Into Your Relationship

You know that feeling when you’re with a group of friends and one of you starts laughing and the next one cracks a smile and the next gets giggling and suddenly you’re that group of five people holdin...
By Emma McGowan

5 Experts On Why Limiting Access To Free Birth Control Is Terrible For Women

One of the major benefits to women under the Affordable Care Act (also known as Obamacare) is the birth control mandate, which made birth control available under insurance with no co-pay. It’s counted...
By Emma McGowan

What Abortion Clinic Escorts *Really* Want You To Know

When I saw calls for a counter-protest at the Planned Parenthood in my hometown a couple of years ago, I thought hell yes! There’s something that just feels really righteous about showing up and showi...
By Emma McGowan

How To Get A Free Menstrual Cup On Sunday

Here’s the thing about tampons: For 17 years, I totally thought they were the best solution for my period. That all changed when I started using a menstrual cup. Sure, tampons were better than the pad...
By Emma McGowan

How VR Can Change People's Views on Abortion & Clinic Harassment

At abortion clinics across the country, women and their companions are faced with harassment — and sometimes even physical violence — as they try to access safe and legal abortions. Protesters range f...
By Emma McGowan

New York City Now Has A Resistance-Themed Bar

If you’re anything like me, the 2016 election, the inauguration, and the subsequent quick succession of executive orders that seemed aimed at destroying everything I love about America have driven you...
By Emma McGowan

The Puberty Videos You Should've Seen Before Going To Camp

The weather is heating up. The sun is shining. Kids can see the finish line for the school year — and families are thinking about summer camp. While I was the Wednesday Addams of my summer sleep away ...
By Emma McGowan

7 Ways To *Actually* Celebrate Women's Health Week

President Trump is all about helping women this week — or at least that’s what a Mother's Day statement from the White House kicking off Women's Health Week would have us a believe. Women’s Health Wee...
By Emma McGowan

What Happens To Women In States With Only One Abortion Clinic

Abortion is a constitutionally protected medical procedure in the United States of America. Despite that fact, there are a growing number of restrictions to access to abortion across the country. And ...
By Emma McGowan

The Way To Supercharge Your Sex Life In 2017

The New Year is a great time to make changes — that’s what New Year’s resolutions are all about, right? But while all of your friends are resolving to finally start working out regularly or change the...
By Emma McGowan

Why Hard Times In Your Relationship Are Important

Our culture loves to romanticize the “perfect” romantic relationship. You know what I’m talking about: the married couple that got together in high school and are still going strong 20 years later; th...
By Emma McGowan

Can You Be Friends With An Ex If You Have An S.O.?

I’m one of those people who tries to stay friends with my exes — to varying degrees of success. My philosophy is that I’ve invested so much time, energy, and love into these people and it would be a w...
By Emma McGowan

11 Topics To Talk About That Aren't Your Love Life

Are you sick of people asking you all the time about your relationship status?  Or maybe you have that one friend who can’t seem to talk about anything else? I feel you. As a woman, I feel sometimes l...
By Emma McGowan

How To Create New Holiday Traditions With Your SO

My boyfriend and I were talking to a friend about our plans for Christmas the other day. I offhandedly said, “Oh, we’re just going to do what we always do,” and it wasn’t until later that I realized h...
By Emma McGowan

9 Christmas Foods That Are Also Aphrodisiacs

My associations with Christmas dinner don’t have anything to do with sex. I think of family, too much champagne, and stuffing my face until all I want to do is recline on the couch with my little brot...
By Emma McGowan

Why You Might Not Be Into Casual Sex

Being able to have casual sex might just be one of the greatest things about being alive in the United States in this day and age. I mean, sex out of wedlock was generally frowned upon before the sexu...
By Emma McGowan

Why You Should Consider Getting This For Your Mom

My mom offered to buy me a vibrator when I was 13. At the time, I was totally grossed out — like, EW MOM! — but in retrospect, that was an awesome, sex positive, badass thing for her to do. She realiz...
By Emma McGowan

11 Sex Toys To Give Your Relationship

The holidays aren’t a particularly sexy time of year. From a lot of enforced family time to bulky layer upon bulky layer before we get to the nudity to all the stress, it wouldn’t be weird if sex fell...
By Emma McGowan

7 Reasons Why Winter Is The Best Season For Sex

Right when the leaves turned from bright green to brilliant oranges and reds and suddenly everyone began wearing flannel, I started dreaming of having winter sex. This past summer was one of the hotte...
By Emma McGowan

7 Self-Care Tips When Your Partner Is Depressed

Dealing with a partner’s depression is really, really hard. On the one hand, you know that what they’re going through is not their fault. On the other hand, it’s difficult not to feel hurt when they p...
By Emma McGowan

Love Languages Might Save Your Relationship

My boyfriend and I recently resolved a conflict that we’ve had since we first started dating. On the face of things, it’s pretty simple: I want him to tell me he loves me and give me more compliments ...
By Emma McGowan

Where To Have Sex This Week

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having sex in a bed. In fact, I’d even say it’s my favorite spot, mainly because I’m generally lazy and not terribly flexible. But sometimes nothing is better th...
By Emma McGowan

13 Sexy Stocking Stuffers For $20 And Under

I don’t know about you, but my family is really into stocking stuffers. My grandma is so into them that she wraps each individual one, which is kind of awesome because you get to open way more present...
By Emma McGowan

Black Friday Sex Toy Deals You Don't Want To Miss

Personally, nothing sounds worse to me than shopping on Black Friday: I hate large crowds, I hate lines, and I’m usually hungover on the day after Thanksgiving. However, I do love saving money, which ...
By Emma McGowan

13 Grassroots Organizations To Donate To Right Now

The day after the election, I donated to Planned Parenthood. It wasn’t the first time I’d done that — they were my primary healthcare provider in the years that I had no money and as soon as I could, ...
By Emma McGowan

9 Sex Toys To Give Your BFF For The Holidays

My best friend broke up with her partner of five years last Fall. While she was going through a particularly rough time this summer, I was dealing with some stuff in my own relationship and her suppor...
By Emma McGowan

This Is A Next Level Safety Pin

I have an awesome new addition to the #SafetyPin movement that I think you’re going to love as much as I do: The Ally Pin from Unbound. But before I get into why I love it, here’s a quick recap of the...
By Emma McGowan

#MomentOfTruth Is For Anyone Who Is Scared Now

Emily May started thinking about what she and her organization, Hollaback! — which documents and combats street harassment around the world — were going to about the hate that now President-elect Dona...
By Emma McGowan

7 Tips For Boosting Your Confidence In Bed

Do you think you’re great in bed? If your answer is something along the lines of “Well… Maybe?” you’re not alone. According to the SKYN Condoms Millennial Sex Survey, only 45 percent of Millennials sa...
By Emma McGowan