Laken Howard
NU/Medill alum; Brooklynite; sex/dating/relationships contributor; win my heart with cat pictures and eggs benedict

Latest Articles

7 Things A Grown-Ass Woman *Doesn't* Accept From Her Partner In Bed

Just because you're sexually active doesn't automatically make you a mature lover — learning to be a confident, respectful, open-minded sexual partner takes time, and everyone develops at a different ...
By Laken Howard

7 Signs You're Not Comfortable With Yourself In Bed

At some point or another, we all experience insecurity in the bedroom. If you feel like you're not totally comfortable with your ~sexual~ self, there's absolutely no reason to feel ashamed or embarras...
By Laken Howard

Is Using Dating Apps While In A Relationship Cheating?

Although it's pretty much universally acknowledged that being cheated on sucks, that doesn't mean cheating is a black-and-white issue. Every couple has different boundaries for their own relationship ...
By Laken Howard

The Secret Behind The Perfect Picture For Your Dating Profile

Figuring out how to choose the best pictures for your dating profile is easier said than done. Whether you're selfie-obsessed and simply have too many to choose from, or you're camera shy and seriousl...
By Laken Howard

What Younger Millennials Are *Really* Looking For On Dating Apps

If you ask me, us Millennials have an unfairly bad rap when it comes to our dating lives and habits. Like with any generation, there are Millennial dating problems, but the general assumption that we'...
By Laken Howard

Why The Idea That Women Can't Be Both Sexy & Smart Is So Problematic

In case you somehow missed it, the internet was recently baffled over a controversial piece entitled 'Why I won't date hot women anymore.' By weaving together some dating anecdotes from a handful of p...
By Laken Howard

How To Meet Someone This Weekend If You Don't Drink

Whether dating apps are causing a "dating apocalypse" or are merely the easiest way to get a date, there's no denying these tools have been total gamechangers in the dating scene within the last few y...
By Laken Howard

What To Do If You're Thinking Of Cheating

When you're in a long-term relationship, having thoughts of infidelity is not at all abnormal — and it doesn't automatically make you a bad person. Being in an exclusive relationship doesn't make you ...
By Laken Howard

The Best Way To Build Confidence As A Dater

Whether dating apps are causing a "dating apocalypse" or are merely the easiest way to get a date, there's no denying these tools have been total gamechangers in the dating scene within the last few y...
By Laken Howard

This Is How Grown-Ass Man Treats You In Bed

No one is perfect, and awkward moments and mistakes will happen to the best of us in bed. But it's important to be open to growing and maturing in your sexuality, because there are real consequences t...
By Laken Howard

Were Elementary School Kids Injured In The San Bernardino Shooting?

UPDATE: An 8-year-old student was confirmed dead in the aftermath of the shooting at North Park Elementary School. Jonathan Martinez was pronounced dead after being airlifted to the hospital. Accordin...
By Laken Howard

How To *Actually* Meet Someone At A Party This Weekend

Whether dating apps are causing a "dating apocalypse" or are merely the easiest way to get a date, there's no denying these tools have been total gamechangers in the dating scene within the last few y...
By Laken Howard

The 7 Best Positions To Try This Month

With April in full swing and the weather finally warming up, now is the perfect time to spring clean your sex life so it gets a little hotter, too. Don't get me wrong — I love the intimate, cuddly vib...
By Laken Howard

Are Dating Apps Taking A Toll On Your Self-Esteem?

Whether dating apps are causing a "dating apocalypse" or are merely the easiest way to get a date, there's no denying these tools have been total gamechangers in the dating scene within the last few y...
By Laken Howard

13 Memes & Tributes To Share For Trans Visibility Day

For anyone who's unaware, Friday, March 31 is International Transgender Day of Visibility — an annual holiday to acknowledge the transgender community and celebrate all of its amazing accomplishments....
By Laken Howard

7 Ways To Show Support For Planned Parenthood Today

If your newsfeed has been a flood of pink on March 29, it's not just because it's Wednesday and everyone loves Mean Girls references (though that might also be true). The real explanation is that it's...
By Laken Howard

13 Feminist Memes To Share For Planned Parenthood's Pink Out Day

If you haven't yet heard, Wednesday, March 29, is what Planned Parenthood has dubbed Pink Out Day — a day to show support for the organization, which has been facing threats of federal defunding under...
By Laken Howard

This Is When To Delete Your Dating Apps If You've Started Seeing Someone

Being in a brand-new relationship comes with so many awesome benefits: getting to share new experiences together, having all those getting-to-know-you conversations, and just generally feeling the war...
By Laken Howard

What To Do If You Feel Like This Position Doesn't Work For You

Everyone has a favorite sex position, and for a lot of women, cowgirl (aka on top) is the go-to position that helps them reach orgasm almost every time. On paper, it makes sense: if you're 'in charge'...
By Laken Howard

Signs You Might Want To Date Other People

It's perfectly natural to experience ruts in a long-term relationship: life with your partner might feel a little too routine or stagnant, or maybe there's a lack of passion and excitement that you cr...
By Laken Howard