Laken Howard
NU/Medill alum; Brooklynite; sex/dating/relationships contributor; win my heart with cat pictures and eggs benedict

Latest Articles

The Best Position For When You're Feeling Stuck In A Rut

If you've been dating the same person for a long time, you probably know the struggle of trying to find creative new sex positions to try out. Don't get me wrong: there's nothing wrong with having a f...
By Laken Howard

13 Male Toys To Give Your Partner This Month

When it comes to male masturbation, there's nothing wrong with doing things the old-fashioned way (aka lube, hand, and tissues). But if you ask me, toys for masturbation don't really get the hype they...
By Laken Howard

9 Partner Toys That Are Perfect For Quickies

As much fun as sex is, sometimes there simply aren't enough hours in the day to have the long, drawn-out sex you desire. For the days when you and your partner are tight on time, figuring out how to h...
By Laken Howard

The Ways You Annoy Your Partner, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

We all annoy our partners from time to time. After the honeymoon phase ends, it's natural to start noticing your partner's irritating habits or weird quirks, like the fact that they always seem to lea...
By Laken Howard

How To Get More Matches On Tinder During Mercury Retrograde

As an astrology novice, I have to admit that I typically scoff at the idea of some far-off planet messing with my life here on Earth — but for anyone who sets store by the stars, there's one phrase th...
By Laken Howard

The Sign Your "Break" Will Turn Into A Breakup

I've always been firmly in the camp that taking a break from your relationship is a bad, bad idea. If you ask me, you're better off communicating your problems and asking for what you need in your rel...
By Laken Howard

This Dating App Is Offering Free Weddings To Single Members Of Bachelor Nation

As any loyal follower of the Bachelor franchise knows, not everyone who hops out of a limo at Bachelor Mansion gets the fairytale ending they'd envisioned. After all, there's only one final rose to be...
By Laken Howard

The Question To Ask Yourself Before You Break Up With Someone

Even under the most ideal conditions (as in, it's mutual), breaking up with someone is never a pleasant experience. Whether you've been dating for a few weeks or a few years, going through a breakup s...
By Laken Howard

How To Feel Comfortable Asking For What You Need In A Relationship

Truthfully, asking for what you need in a relationship can be really effing difficult. Even if you feel totally at ease with your partner, there's such a stigma around coming across as "needy" (especi...
By Laken Howard

7 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Sleep With Someone

When you're about to have sex, it's easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment and dive right into bed without a second thought. But whether it's a one-night-stand or a regular old Tuesday mornin...
By Laken Howard

Your Tweets Can Now Help You Find Love, Thanks To This Dating App

Most people probably think of Twitter as just another social media platform where you can chat with strangers, read the news, and, of course, find memes to send your friends — but not necessarily the ...
By Laken Howard

What Women *Really* Fantasize About

If you've ever wondered what the most common female masturbation fantasies are, you're definitely not alone — being curious about what turns other people on is just part of human nature. In honor of N...
By Laken Howard

Here's How Often Millennials Have Solo Sex

In case you needed another excuse to practice self-love, May is Masturbation Month — aka the perfect time to learn about how masturbation can improve your sex life. When you spend time getting to know...
By Laken Howard

How Planning A Wedding *Really* Affects Your Relationship

As romantic and exciting as engagement is hyped up to be, I have to admit I've often wondered whether planning a wedding is stressful on couples. After the high of getting an exorbitant amount of like...
By Laken Howard

6 Signs An Ex Is Haunting You

Like every generation before us, there are Millennial dating problems that plague singles — from ghosting to breadcrumbing to the latest dating trend: haunting. Sounds spooky, but how do you know if s...
By Laken Howard

11 Things To Ask Yourself About Your Relationship

Whether you've been with your partner for years or are just starting to see someone new, there's never a bad time to reflect on your relationship and ask yourself some deeper questions to figure out i...
By Laken Howard

Why People 'Haunt' Their Exes On Social Media

Another day, another new dating trend with a name so fitting it's almost ~spooky~. This time, the term you need to familiarize yourself with is 'haunting', aka the practice of lurking an ex's social m...
By Laken Howard

Does Using Social Media To Flirt *Actually* Work?

The latest cleverly named trend in the world of dating has literary roots — but what does "Gatsbying" mean? The term was recently made popular in a hilarious Reddit post by user CupcakeWarrior, which ...
By Laken Howard

7 Things A Grown-Ass Woman *Doesn't* Accept From Her Partner In Bed

Just because you're sexually active doesn't automatically make you a mature lover — learning to be a confident, respectful, open-minded sexual partner takes time, and everyone develops at a different ...
By Laken Howard

7 Signs You're Not Comfortable With Yourself In Bed

At some point or another, we all experience insecurity in the bedroom. If you feel like you're not totally comfortable with your ~sexual~ self, there's absolutely no reason to feel ashamed or embarras...
By Laken Howard

How To Use Snapchat's Cool New Paintbrush Tool

On Tuesday (and just in time for the holidays), Snapchat rolled out new features in its latest update that will help users get even more creative with their selfies. In the midst of all the buzz about...
By Laken Howard

7 Sex Resolutions For Grown-Ass Women

I'd like to think there's a somewhat universally shared feeling in that every year, without fail, tons of us confidently tell ourselves "new year, new me," only to be majorly disappointed (though not ...
By Laken Howard

Why It's Better To Break Up *Before* The Holidays

The holidays might be the most wonderful time of the year, but if you're in an unhappy relationship during this season, it can turn you from Buddy the Elf to the Grinch in no time flat. Going through ...
By Laken Howard

Why The Holidays Are The Best Time To Meet Someone

The holiday season is one of my favorite times of the year: there's no shortage of festive music, scrumptious food, whimsical decorations, and most important of all, holiday cheer. Everyone seems to b...
By Laken Howard

The Best Sex Toys For Long-Distance Couples

The holiday season is in full swing, which means an increase in the number of people frantically googling 'last-minute gift ideas' every time their boss turns the other way. If you've so far procrasti...
By Laken Howard

15 Holiday Breakup Excuses To Borrow This Year

If you're in a long-term thing or even just casually seeing someone, one thing is certain: The warm and fuzzy feelings associated with the holidays can definitely make us re-evaluate our relationships...
By Laken Howard

The 40 Most Influential Women Of 2016

It's that time of year again: the list of TIME's Most Influential People 2016 has been released, so we can reflect on how people made their mark this year. Perhaps unsurprisingly, Donald Trump took th...
By Laken Howard

This Service Delivers Birth Control To Your Door

I don't really remember how old I was when I first started taking oral contraceptives — probably in my late teens — but I do recall how irritated I was to have to remember to renew and refill my presc...
By Laken Howard

The Sexiest Stocking Stuffers To Buy This Season

I'd like to think that a major milestone of adulthood is finally admitting to yourself that your favorite part of the holidays isn't the music or the pretty lights or the whole spending-time-with fami...
By Laken Howard

What It's Like To Do An STI Test With Your Partner

If you're sexually active, there's a pretty solid chance that at some point, you'll get some sort of sexually transmitted infection. According to the American Sexual Health Association, more than half...
By Laken Howard

The Funniest Dirty Talk Fails Ever

It may seem weird, but the best dirty talk isn't always the smoothest. It would be awesome if we always knew exactly the right thing to say to turn our partners on, but in reality, there will be times...
By Laken Howard

5 Intimate Sex Positions To Try Over The Holidays

The holidays are actually the most wonderful time of the year — you get to eat delicious food, give, and receive presents, spend time with family and friends, and blast "All I Want For Christmas Is Yo...
By Laken Howard

What Women Really Think About During Sex

Admit it: at some point, you've totally thought about your grocery list (or worse, your grandma) during sex. While it would be nice if our brains let us fully commit to sexy thoughts while we're doing...
By Laken Howard

5 Mistakes It's OK To Make In A Relationship

As pop culture icon Hannah Montana once sang: everybody makes mistakes. Although it's easy enough to recognize that nobody's perfect, that doesn't stop us from feeling disappointed in ourselves when w...
By Laken Howard

Here's How Dating Apps Have Changed Post-Election

Things in America have definitely changed in the aftermath of the 2016 election. Since Trump's win became official, there have been protests and pushback, both on social media and IRL. Some people hav...
By Laken Howard

Let's Not Tell People How They Should Feel Today

For every American who hoped that love, tolerance, and respect would prevail in the 2016 election, this outcome may feel like an electric shock — and it's understandable that many of us are having tro...
By Laken Howard

The Real Reason We Like People Who Aren't Into Us

If there's one thing that everyone can agree on, it's that getting over unrequited love isn't easy. No matter how old you are, having one-sided feelings for someone is a sh*tty experience. From your e...
By Laken Howard

What To Bring Up Instead Of Your Dating Life

It's almost Halloween, which means that Thanksgiving and Christmas are basically tomorrow. Because the holiday season is upon us, it's time to mentally prepare for those messy semi-annual family get-t...
By Laken Howard

7 Sexy Scenes That You Should NOT Recreate IRL

I have to admit, one of my all time favorite things to Google is 'awkward sex scenes in movies,' because the results are packed with hours of cheesy, cringe-worthy entertainment. As much as I lament t...
By Laken Howard

7 Hot Movie-Inspired Positions To Try IRL

As a kid, watching sex scenes in movies was equal parts fascinating and awkward (especially if you accidentally sat through one with your parents in the room). Naturally, we're all curious about the h...
By Laken Howard