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27 Feminist Quotes About Being Single
So many of us are taught at a young age that our end goal should be a relationship which leads to marriage, kids, a white picket fence, etc. We're often told that being single can be great, but only for short periods of time. But why can't the journey be as great as the destination or somewhere that you choose to stay?
We waste so much time scared of being alone that we can miss out on everything being single has to offer. It's the time where we can figure out who we are, what we want and deserve, and what our actual life goals are, not just the ones we *think* we're supposed to have. Always dreamt of living somewhere like Thailand or Germany? Now's the no-strings attached chance to make that happen. When you're single, you have no responsibility to anyone but yourself and that can be a great thing.
It's the time to create invaluable friendships with people who will always be around for the long haul. Also, it's an opportunity to work on your most important and longest relationship — the one with yourself. In the end, being on your own will help you to grow into a well-rounded, self-loving human being. Check out these feminist quotes for more inspiration.
1. "You can't make homes out of human beings / someone should have already told you that / and if he wants to leave / then let him leave / you are terrifying / and strange and beautiful / something not everyone knows how to love.” -Warsan Shire
2. "Don't let what he wants eclipse what you need. He is very dreamy, but he is not the sun, you are." -Shonda Rhimes
3. “Single is no longer a lack of options — but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.” -Mandy Hale
4. “You don't walk away to prove your worth. You walk away because you allowed someone else to dictate your value and you found yourself believing it.” -Shannon L. Adler
5. "Don't let society fool you into believing that if you don't have a girlfriend or boyfriend then you're destined for a life of misery. The Dalai Lama has been single for the last 80 years and he is one of the happiest people on earth. Stop searching for happiness in places outside of yourself, and start finding it where it has always been: within you." -Miya Yamanouchi
6. “Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person.” -Gloria Steinem
7. "Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore." -Lady Gaga
8. "Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in." -Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
9. "The single woman is a free woman, and being single does not mean being alone — it means being free to have a relationship or not. This can be scary, but it's also very interesting." -Monica Bellucci
10. "I am an independent, educated woman, I make my own money, take care of my mom, and I am single, so I can do whatever I want, taking no one's permission, and that is the best part." -Nargis Fakhri
11. "You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose." -Jo Coudert
12. "I don't think that because I'm not married it's made my life any less. That old maid myth is garbage." — Diane Keaton
13. "I don't need a man to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we'll ever have is the one with ourselves." — Shirley MacLaine
14. "People aren't defined by their relationships." -Nina Dobrev
15. “I don’t need Prince Charming to have my own happy ending.” -Katy Perry
16. "Discover why you’re important, then refuse to settle for anyone who doesn’t completely agree." -Fisher Amelie
17. “Cinderella never asked for a prince. She asked for a night off and a dress.” -Kiera Cass
18. “Don’t settle for a relationship that won’t let you be yourself.” -Oprah Winfrey
19. “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.” -Charlotte Brontë
20. “It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.” -Eartha Kitt
21. “If any female feels she need anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency.” -bell hooks
22. “My alone feels so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude.” -Warsan Shire
23. "I'm through with being the perfect girlfriend, just through with it. Then if he's sore with me, let him dump my ass. That will just give me more time to be a genius.” -Sheila Heti
24. “You’re turning over your whole life to him. Your whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean any more to him? He can’t value you more than you value yourself.” -Toni Morrison
25. "Too many women throw themselves into romance because they’re afraid of being single, then start making compromises and losing their identity. I won’t do that." -Julie Delpy
26. "How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself." -Anaïs Nin
27. "I don’t like to be labeled as lonely just because I am alone." -Delta Burke
So throw away the idea that being single is a bad thing. This is your time to shine. Enjoy the journey.
