Is your partner a perfectionist? A bit of a control freak? Prone to seemingly random meltdowns or panic attacks? Do they keep you up all night with insomnia or active nightmares? If you answered yes to those, they might have high-functioning anxiety. High-functioning anxiety isn't a technical medical term, but instead a popular term for people who experience anxiety, but don't fit the bill for Generalized Anxiety Disorder.
People with high-functioning anxiety often appear to be totally together. They can be perfectionists, overachievers, list-makers. They can also be insomniacs, self-mutilators, and people who experience private panic attacks. Living with high-functioning anxiety is presenting a great face to the world, while inside your brain is wracking through a never-ending list of worries. Is the house clean? Are they angry? Am I doing well enough in my career? Am I failing as a girlfriend/wife/daughter/employee?
And for the partners of people with high-functioning anxiety, it can seem like nothing you ever do is enough. No matter how often you reassure your partner or tell them not to worry, they're still stuck on that worry treadmill. It can be exhausting, upsetting, and relationship-ending if you don't know how to help a partner who's dealing with this issue.