The Best Sex Positions For Maximizing Pleasure For Both Partners

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When it comes to having sex, it should be a two-way street. What I mean by this is, unless you're in a sub/dom sexual relationship where it's been decided that one goes without pleasure while the other reaps all the goodies, sex should be pleasurable for both people. Even if an orgasm isn't achieved, as sometimes is the case, it doesn't mean that sex can't be pleasurable and extremely satisfying. I mean, that is the point after all, isn't it?

"When working with my female clients, it is important to empower them and let them know that they are sexy and can be in control of their own pleasure," certified clinical sexologist, sexuality counselor and author of My Husband Wont Have Sex With Me, Dr. Dawn Michael, tells Bustle. "Many of the positions that I recommend are ones where a woman can tease herself and have control over penetration as well as rhythm."

While that's definitely excellent advice for women — and you'll definitely want to try sex positions that provide G-spot and/or clitoral stimulation — you may need to dig a little deeper in order to maximize pleasure if you have a male partner. Here are nine sex positions guaranteed to satisfy you and your partner.

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1Doggy Style

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How to do it: While on all fours, have your partner, while on their knees, enter you from behind.

Why it maximizes pleasure for both partners: First of all, the doggy style position remains a favorite across the board. Guys love it, because they can penetrate very deeply in this position. As for women, doggy style hits the G-spot perfectly, and even if you don't end up experiencing a vaginal orgasm, it can still feel fantastic.

2Cowgirl

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How to do it: With your partner laying on their back, straddle them. Next, proceed to, well, ride them like a cowgirl, as the name suggests, grinding your bodies against each other.

Why it maximizes pleasure for both partners: When a woman is on top, she has total control over her orgasm, which means the clitoral stimulation from grinding against her partner's pubic bone can help her orgasm. For men, this is pleasurable because he knows the chances of his partner climaxing are pretty good in this position while he gets to just lay there and enjoy himself.

3Doggy Style With A Vibrator

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How to do it: Simply, get into the traditional doggy style position, then add a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris.

Why it maximizes pleasure for both partners: This particular position is a real winner for both partners. Not only does the women get her clitoris and G-spot stimulated at the same time, upping her chances of having the elusive blended orgasm, but her male partner also gets to enjoy the vibrations as they trickle on down to him, while experiencing the awesome sensation of deep vaginal penetration.

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How to do it: With one of you on top and one on the bottom, facing in opposite directions, nuzzle your face into each others genitals and begin oral stimulation.

Why it maximizes pleasure for both partners: When you get to enjoy the experience of giving while receiving, it's what they call in the business world a win-win. There are no losses in a 69.

5Reverse Cowgirl

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How to do it: With your partner laying flat on their back, straddle them while facing away. It's just like the cowgirl, but you're facing in the other direction.

Why it maximizes pleasure for both partners: Similar to traditional cowgirl, the woman is in charge of her orgasm, so when that's part of a sexual scenario you know it's a great position. As for a male companion and, again, similar to traditional cowgirl, he gets to lay there, relax, enjoy the view, and focus on the sensation of being stimulated vigorously (or slow and easy) by his partner.

6X Marks The Spot

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How to do it: While laying on your back on a flat surface, with your legs crossed and in the air, have your partner, while standing, penetrate you in this position.

Why it maximizes pleasure for both partners: The tightness you create with your crossed legs also creates a tightness in your vagina that's a sensation you'll both really enjoy. This particular tightness is actually why this position is great for men with smaller penises. But in addition to the tight sensation is the G-spot stimulation for women and, if she so desires, the position is perfect for her to stimulate her clitoris either manually or with a vibrator, as her partner pulls her legs toward him for more leverage.

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7Sideways Straddle

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How to do it: With your partner laying down on their back with one knee bent, straddle that knee, then lower yourself onto their penis while facing away from them.

Why it maximizes pleasure for both partners: First and foremost, when it comes to sex positions for the female orgasm, this one is on the top of the list. Secondly, it allows for rear entry into the vagina for the penis, meaning it's penetrating deeper and creating more sensation.

8Sofa Brace

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How to do it: While on your knees, drape yourself over the back of the sofa. Next, have your partner, while also on their knees, penetrate you as they would in doggy style.

Why it maximizes pleasure for both partners: The most pleasurable aspect of this particular position is comfort. You're both on the sofa, you're bent over it so there's no pressure on your arms and wrists, and your partner is bent over you who's all cozy on the sofa.

9Modified Doggy

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How to do it: For this one, you can either start laying down on your stomach, as your partner climbs on top and penetrates you from behind or you can start in traditional doggy style and lower yourselves down together.

Why it maximizes pleasure for both partners: Again, rear vaginal penetration is always a winner for both partners. And, similar to the sofa brace, you have the comfort of the bed against you, as opposed to putting pressure and weight on your wrists and knees, as well as the knees of your partner. Because your bodies are on top of each other, either you or your partner have easy access to stimulating your clitoris, in addition to the phenomenal penetration.

Ultimately, the sex positions that are going to maximize pleasure for both partners aren't going to be set in stone, because we're all into different things. But these nine positions are a great place to start.

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