When it comes to having a healthy partnership,
making mistakes in a relationship is both common and normal, but it can be helpful to consider the things you might do wrong, as well as the things you're likely to do right to make sure that relationship lasts. You may want to do a little soul searching, chat with a loved one, or have a heart-to-heart with your partner in order to figure it all out. But you could also take a gander at the zodiac, and do a little research about your sign's personality traits, to figure out which ones resonate with you and might be holding you back in your relationship.
As you know, your zodiac sign is associated with a long list of these traits. And usually they're positive. For example, if you're a Virgo you're likely to be
the most caring person around. And if you're a Scorpio, you might be known for your passionate ways.
But not a single sign is perfect, and because of that, each one comes with qualities that can make
certain relationship mistakes more likely. If a few of these zodiac traits resonate with you, it may explain why you've had trouble connecting with your partner, or why you sometimes have difficulty communicating.
If you recognize these trait in yourself, that's a great thing. The first step in tweaking your habits is self-awareness. And the second step is discussing how to make changes that work for the both of you to have a healthier relationship. Here are a few
things you might be doing wrong in your relationships, according to Astrologers.
Aries (March 21 - April 19): Rushing Into Things
An Aries is all about love, and may have a tendency to rush into relationships as a result. But that doesn't mean that everything will always be a-OK.
"[They] rush into love, and while this love tsunami can feel amazing as it’s happening, remember that Aries will rush out of the relationship just as quickly," Jaye, an astrologer with
GiftedAstrology.com, tells Bustle. This may be because Aries sometimes get bored easily, Jaye says.
Relationships that happen quickly can have staying power. But if you feel like things tend to end before you'd like them to, take a moment to slow down and let the relationship flow naturally without rushing it along. You can also make sure to
keep that spark alive with your partner — so neither of you gets bored.
Taurus (April 20 - May 20): Becoming Complacent
As Jaye says, Taurus can become a bit complacent in their relationships, once they're comfortable with someone. They can also be a bit of a homebody, and that's perfectly OK. But Taurus should keep in mind that their partner may want to do more than watch Netflix every single night.
If this is something you recognize yourself doing,
remember to vary it up. If your partner wants to go out or be more social, strike an agreement where both your needs are being met. For example, you might agree to a Friday night date night, where you go out on the town, followed by a Saturday movie night in.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20): Getting Bored Easily
Gemini can be a bit superficial, Jaye says, so they should keep that in mind in relationships. "They like newness, young, and fresh ideas. And variety," Jaye says.
If notice that you may get bored easily in a relationship, or are craving something new, switch things up with your partner and schedule in those date nights. Consider
traveling with your significant other to new and exciting places, so you can see each other through fresh eyes, and keep your connection alive.
Cancer (June 21 - July 22): Not Giving Their Partner Enough Space
Cancers have one heck of a nurturing side. "This sign is ruled by the moon, so the maternal instincts are there in spades," Jaye says. But sometimes Cancer can take their nurturing side and need for closeness to a degree that may be suffocating to their partner.
If this speaks to you, make sure you give your partner the alone time they may want. Having some time apart to
do your own thing is healthy for a relationship.
Leo (July 23 - August 22): Taking But Not Giving Attention To Their Partner
Leo loves nothing more than being the center of attention. "They’re the actors of the zodiac, so the world is their stage," Jaye says. But that often means they don't allow their partner to be in the spotlight, or give their partners due attention.
Since this can lead to resentment — if the spotlight is something your partner craves, too — keep this habit in mind. Can you
find ways to balance out the attention that you both get and receive? Make sure you listen, and your partner feels heard.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22): Micromanaging Their Partner
Virgo is all about organization, which can be a great thing for a relationship — and an apartment, which is likely spotless. But it might mean Virgo can get a bit micromanaging with their partner.
"They do this because they want the best for [their partner]," Jaye says. But that doesn't mean you have to go full Virgo all the time. If this describes you, remind yourself to occasionally step back. Your relationship can be organized and healthy,
without telling your partner what to do.
Libra (September 23 - October 22): Flirting With Others
Libras are the flirts of the zodiac. "They’re the zodiac sign that represents marriage and partnerships, so connecting is their forte," Jaye says. But, as you can imagine, this tendnecy can get out of hand and lead to jealousy.
That's why if you're a Libra on the flirty side, and your partner seems uncomfortable with your flirtatious ways, it's important to take notice and take a step back when necessary. While you don't have to change your natural personality, you don't want to take flirting so far that it compromises your relationship. It can help to
try flirting with your partner instead, so that they can be the beneficiaries of your magnetic energy.
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21): Needing To Chase Their Partner
It may sound strange, but Scorpio actually
dislikes it when their partner tries too hard. They want to be the ones to come to you and discover things about you, Jaye says. But this can lead some partners to feel rejected.
So, as a Scorpio, you may consider occasionally letting your partner take the proverbial wheel. Do
they want to cook you dinner? Or plan a date night? Letting them make a few moves might be more fun than you think.
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21): Not Opening Up
Sagittarius often tries to keep things light and airy, Jaye says, in order to avoid feeling true, deep emotions. But this can take a toll on a relationship, especially since connecting with a partner often means opening up a little.
While it's OK to feel nervous about opening up to a person — after all, talking about your thoughts can be daunting — it
is something you can work on, if you're interested in a deeper connection.
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19): Being Emotionally Guarded
Capricorn is another sign that tends to be super guarded in their relationships. Jaye calls them "the most emotionally guarded Sun sign of the zodiac and a tough nut to crack in the love department." But that's only because they tend to focus their energy elsewhere, like your goals at work. And that's awesome.
making love another one of your goals (because you can have many, all at the same time) it can help your partner feel more heard and cared for, and thus your relationship will improve.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18): Not Prioritizing Their Partner
An Aquarius may have a tricky time devoting their full attention to a relationship, since they often prioritize other things, like your friendships. "Aquarius is usually just trying to be all-inclusive, but their partner can easily feel neglected or in the friend zone," Jaye says.
While it's obviously OK to have friendships and hobbies outside your relationship, it is important to
let your partner know they're a priority, too. If you occasionally fall into this trap, let your partner know you're thinking of them by showing or telling them that you care.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20): Taking Frustrations Out On Their Partner
Pisces are so in tune with their surroundings, it can lead to stressful outbursts. "Sometimes it can be too much for Pisces to process, and their mate gets the brunt of the emotional storms," Jaye says. But never fear.
"As odd as it sounds, recalibrating with some alone time is the best for a Pisces relationship," Jaye says. So if this happens to you, allow yourself some space, and
enjoy your alone time.
Often, all it takes is awareness, and then little tweaks to keep the harmony in your relationship. You may have personality trait or two that can occasionally get in the way and make things tricky, as we all do. But that
doesn't mean you can't have a healthy partnership. Just be mindful, and always open with your partner on how you both can improve.