Allison McCarthy
Writer and feminist featured in publications such as The Washington Post, The Guardian (U.K.), AlterNet, Time.com, xoJane, The Frisky, Medium.com (Human Parts), YourTango, Ms. (blog), Bitch, Role/Reboot, Shameless, Global Comment, make/shift, The Feminist Wire, ColorsNW, Girlistic and The Baltimore Review, as well as in the anthologies "Robot Hearts: Twisted and True Tales of Seeking Love in the Digital Age" (Pinchback Press) and "Dear Sister: Letters From Survivors of Sexual Violence" (AK Press). Graduate of Goucher College and the Master of Professional Writing program at Chatham University. Four tattoos, two cats, not enough time in the day.
Latest Articles

Why I Burned My Bridesmaid Dress

I’d never been fired before — until I was fired from a wedding. A long-time friend invited me to be a bridesmaid shortly after she announced her engagement — and then fired me less than a month before her wedding. After a decade of friendship and a y…
By Allison McCarthy

10 Lessons You Can Learn From Past Relationships

If you’ve ever picked apart the details of a failed relationship in your journal or with friends or on a message board, the hashtag #LastRelationshipTaughtMe is for you. At the end of every romance, there are almost always clear signs that it’s time …
By Allison McCarthy

10 Companies Who've Always Supported Gay Marriage

Today, the United States Supreme Court ruled on Obergefell v. Hodges, otherwise known as the landmark case on the Federal legalization of gay marriage, that states can no longer ban same-sex couples from marrying. For many private corporate entities …
By Allison McCarthy

10 Of The Best #UnpopularAdultFilms

The adult entertainment industry and Hollywood make for excellent bedfellows. Some of the funniest and most scathing satires of major motion pictures comes from porn – and when the material for a famous #1 blockbuster of a mainstream movie is reduced…
By Allison McCarthy

7 Ways To Better Support Campus Rape Survivors

There's no getting around it: campus rape is a national epidemic. We can no longer bury our collective heads in the sand and pretend that the sexual assault of college students isn't a major crisis. A recent Brown University study published in the Jo…
By Allison McCarthy

5 People You Shouldn't Buy Wedding Gifts For

Can you truly calculate the cost of a gift to a beloved couple celebrating their marriage? For wedding guests, the rules of buying wedding gifts are complex and ever-changing. Should they go with something personal, like an heirloom or a handmade gem…
By Allison McCarthy

8 Signs It's Time To Break Up, Stat

If breaking up is hard to do, how do you know when the relationship is over ? You’ve invested weeks, months or sometimes years into your relationship. You opened up your world – shared your interests, your loved ones and your time. There are strong f…
By Allison McCarthy

Does A Prenup Mean The Marriage Is Doomed?

Our cultural scripts for initiating a marital engagement are all too familiar for couples – the traditions are clear cut. The surprise lies in the timing – perhaps a planned romantic trip or an unexpected, spontaneous detour on an otherwise humdrum d…
By Allison McCarthy

9 Best Quotes In Defense Of Same-Sex Marriage

On April 28, oral arguments over the nationwide legalization of gay marriage were heard for two and a half hours by the U.S. Supreme Court in Obergefell v. Hodges. NPR notes that the case addressed two questions: "First, whether bans on gay marriage …
By Allison McCarthy

8 Things To Know About Dating A Feminist

How many of you have ever written a dating profile where you explicitly said I am a feminist ? If you self-identify as a feminist and are currently looking to date, sometimes it can feel a little overwhelming to figure out when is the right time to i…
By Allison McCarthy

6 Lessons On Loving Yourself From Hillary Clinton

Before the rumors started on Hillary Clinton’s second presidential campaign, she published two memoirs: Living History came out in 2003, during her term as a senator in New York, as well as Hard Choices, published in 2014 after her term as U.S. Secre…
By Allison McCarthy

Can Alzheimer's Patients Consent to Sex?

Henry Rayhons, a widower in Iowa, was accused of sexually assaulting his 79-year-old wife Donna Lou Rayhons, an Alzheimer's patient who was living in a nursing home at the time of her death. Donna's daughters are arguing that when Donna was moved int…
By Allison McCarthy

The Slut-Shaming Problem Among Close Friends

Sex researcher Dr. Zhana Vrangalova and research assistant Rachel Bukberg co-authored a provocative new study on the effects of slut-shaming among college students. Their study, "Are sexually permissive individuals more victimized and socially isolat…
By Allison McCarthy

4 Reasons I'm Completely Over Beards

Business Insider has made their stance clear: “The beard trend is over. It's time to shave.” Men’s Journal tells readers that “if you are currently sporting a beard solely for the attractiveness of the trend, then you need to jump ship and shave. Sin…
By Allison McCarthy

What We Can Learn About Love From Amy Winehouse

Nearly four years after her death, Amy Winehouse is back in the news with the release of the trailer for her documentary Amy: The Girl Behind the Name. In the teaser excerpts of interviews with Winehouse are set against footage of her recording Back …
By Allison McCarthy

9 Sexy Poems For National Poetry Month

National Poetry Month is a celebration of passion in language. For the entirety of April, readers are invited to lose themselves in the titles, the words, the stanzas, the rhyme, the rhythm, the ideas. Poems create magic. They inspire readers to look…
By Allison McCarthy

5 Conflicting Thoughts On 'Chubby Chasers'

It takes guts for women to write about their weight. And if we're measuring bravery from this standard, Kara Richardson Whitely just might be the bravest woman publishing a memoir in 2015. In the process of writing her new book Gorge, Whitely also wo…
By Allison McCarthy

7 Bachelorette Party Ideas That Are Actually Fun

Dick necklaces. There's an opening line I thought I'd never write. I'll keep going: tiaras. Buttons. Sashes. Selfies. Party buses. Glitter. Shots around the bar. The "woo" girls. Somewhere along the line, the modern bachelorette party as we know it e…
By Allison McCarthy

What Happens When You Learn To Love Your Body

Our bodies are complicated, but they should not be hard to love. For so many of us, we struggle with figuring out how to love our bodies and find self-acceptance when confronted with multiple forms of political and social oppression. In an op-ed for …
By Allison McCarthy

10 Things No One Wants To Remember On Facebook

Product manager Jonathan Gheller announced the launch of Facebook's time capsule feature: On This Day. If it sounds a lot like Timehop—which currently tracks social media memories for more than 12 million users — that's because the two applications h…
By Allison McCarthy