Cathy is that girl that reads a book while wearing earbuds and sunglasses on the subway and then complains that cute boys don't talk to her.
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15 Convos That Signal The End Of A Relationship

If only there was a relationship elf that could live on our shoulders and whisper into our ears, gently, kindly, "Sweet pea, you need to move the eff on." If the relationship elf could point out the signs your partner wants to break up with you, then…
By Cathy Vandewater

What You Can Learn About Dating From Older People

Generation Y is pretty big on snap decisions. On Tinder, we use knee-jerk "X" or "<3" buttons in response to a picture on the internet that decides whether someone can contact us, or disappears from our radar forever. If we do swipe right, it's strai…
By Cathy Vandewater

8 Reasons To Chill On Labelling Relationships

The funny thing about labels is, when you need them the most is when you probably aren't in the right relationship (or, er, relationship-like thing). I say this with confidence, because in my worst, must unstable, unhappy disappointing entanglements,…
By Cathy Vandewater

16 Love Tips To Steal From Your Childhood Self

You know how when you're young, you know just enough about life to be like "OBVIOUSLY cheating is wrong and you should always dump the guy that does it" but not enough about life to anticipate being a relationship with someone you love and finding ou…
By Cathy Vandewater

What It's Really Like To Be Ghosted On

I have been ghosted on by guys many times, but usually, I kind of see it coming. Like with the dude I went out with a few times, who alternated between wanting to be single and wanting to be my serious boyfriend sometimes multiple times in a single d…
By Cathy Vandewater

How To Teach Your Partner To Kiss You Better

How can one kiss badly? Let me count the ways. There are the pecks-only people, who don't seem to know what to do beyond rapid fire kisses dead in the center of your mouth, over and over, with sudden and awkward head tilt switches; the ones who go wa…
By Cathy Vandewater

14 Signs You Shouldn't End Your Relationship

To clarify, I am very pro-breaking-up. Life is too short to be with someone you don't have fun with, or who makes you feels shitty about who you are, or who never laughs at your jokes (Taylor Swift knows what I'm talking about). But I also think that…
By Cathy Vandewater

11 Reasons To Give The "Nice Guy" A Shot

Being told you should like a nice guy who you don't find attractive is the literal worst. I have been on 11 dates (11 DATES) with a guy I couldn't bring myself to kiss more recently than I want to admit because 1) he was really interested, 2) I wasn'…
By Cathy Vandewater

What TO Say In An Opening Message

Real life dating practices just don't quite translate to online dating. At a party, in person, eye contact, body language, tone of voice and facial expressions can make "Hey" a showstopping opener. Same with "How are you?" Online, when your inbox is …
By Cathy Vandewater

14 Signs You Don't Have The Relationship You Want

Romance (or lack thereof) is often simpler than most of us want it to be. Your gut is usually right. When you're over a relationship, you're over it — and I think that deep down, everyone knows when that moment has come. But it's hard to walk away fr…
By Cathy Vandewater

6 Hacks For Way Better Shower Sex

So you want to have sex in the shower. Maybe you’re feeling a little adventurous. Maybe you live in New York City with three roommates in two bunk beds and this is your only hope for privacy. Maybe your SO has BO and you'd like to avoid that whole co…
By Cathy Vandewater

26 Thoughts She Has When You Go Down on Her

It's hard to imagine what the whole receiving oral sex experience would be like without the cultural baggage attached to it. There's porn, which tends to feature male-to-female oral for around an eighth of the amount of time as it does the female-to-…
By Cathy Vandewater

What No One Tells You About Losing Your Virginity

Adolescence is deeply confusing that way: some things will just not be explained to you, like what losing your virginity is really like. There is one thing I take away from the handful of "sex talks" I got from my mom that grew and matured with my co…
By Cathy Vandewater

5 Things Your Boobs Are Trying To Tell You

Boobs. I don't know about you, but I have a love-hate relationship with mine. They can be pretty confusing, from all the weird reasons for breast pain to how the fluctuate in size. I was born into a family with both a mom and a sister who were more A…
By Cathy Vandewater

I Talked To Guys On Tinder In 1930s Dirty Talk

Anais Nin once said, "We don't see things as they are. We see things as we are." If that's true, every guy on Tinder is a throbbing dong. How did I come to this conclusion, you ask? Well, I spoke to about 30 different guys on the dating app strictly …
By Cathy Vandewater

12 Things You Don't Know About Faking Orgasms

I became aware of fake orgasms before I understood what orgasms actually were. I had just turned 13, and I was watching an episode of Ally Mcbeal where Ling tells Richard Fish she's been faking it so he'll stop taking Viagra. "First of all, you don't…
By Cathy Vandewater

15 Things Faking An Orgasm Says About You

Because I'm a nightmare, I've been asking all the guys in my life — including a few second and third dates — a research question: do you think any girls you've been with have faked it? And if so — setting aside a few other preliminary questions about…
By Cathy Vandewater

11 Reasons Why You Need to Have Sex With A Dancer

OK so having sex with a dancer isn’t exactly underrated. But sometimes I feel like we're appreciated for all the wrong reasons. Personally, I know that when people find out I belly dance (not to be confused with "ballet dance") they get all excited a…
By Cathy Vandewater

What Your Job Says About Your Sex Life

Samantha Jones once said, "Who we are in bed is who we are in life." To which I call BS, because we all know that the people being ridden around like miniature horses in sex dungeons are totally execs, and those stations in life are very different. B…
By Cathy Vandewater

4 Male Porn Stars Who Seem Like Awesome People

The first time I had ever really watched porn porn was on a first date. I was hanging out with a guy and he made a joke about the Pirates of the Caribbean porn parody and I was like, LOL there's no way that exists and he was like, IT DOES, and I was …
By Cathy Vandewater