Emma McGowan is a sex positive feminist whose hobbies include embroidery, sewing ridiculous clothing, oversharing on the internet, connecting with other women and femmes, and reading at least three books a week. Her work has appeared in Mashable, Mic, The Bold Italic, The Daily Dot's The Kernel, and her own site, Kink&Code.

Latest Articles

It's National Parents Coming Out Day & Here's Why It's So Important

October 12 is the first annual National Parents Coming Out Day. Started by the Strong Family Alliance, National Parents Coming Out Day (which is the day after National Coming Out Day) is not, as I first assumed, about parents coming out to their kids…
By Emma McGowan

23 Feminist Quotes To Share On International Day Of The Girl

October 11, 2017, is the sixth annual International Day of the Girl. Started by the UN in 2012, the day was created to highlight the inequalities that girl children still face around the world. Like, for example, the fact that worldwide there are fou…
By Emma McGowan

The ACLU Is Trying To Make The Make The Abortion Pill More Accessible

What would you do if you needed an abortion and you lived in place where there were no abortion clinics? That’s a real-life question faced by women living in countries where abortion still isn’t legal — but it’s also faced by American women, even tod…
By Emma McGowan

Here's What The Future Of Birth Control Looks Like

September 26 is World Contraception Day. And if you’ve ever taken oral hormonal contraception — more commonly know as the Pill — than you know that in order to get your prescription, you have to go to see your doctor. Some doctors require a full gyne…
By Emma McGowan

History of One Night Stands

For most of history, one-night stands just weren’t a thing. The ability to prevent pregnancy is recent — like, less-than-200-years-old recent.
By Emma McGowan

You Can Let Potential Dates Know You #StandWithPP On OkCupid

If you’re pro-choice, are you willing to date someone who isn’t? What about hook up with them? For me, the answer is clear no. I have a hard and fast “no dating people who don’t think I have the right to bodily autonomy” rule. And now people searchin…
By Emma McGowan

The One Thing You Need To Do Before You Meet Your Partner's Parents

Last summer, one of my brothers brought a girl home after only a few months of dating. We, his six siblings, were like, “Dude, really?” They hadn’t committed to each other yet and there they were, seven hours away from the city they lived in, spendin…
By Emma McGowan

Here's When A Grown-Ass Woman Defines The Relationship

Dating in 2017 is hella ambiguous. Our generation has done a great job of throwing most hard and fast dating rules out the window. These days, it’s pretty much up to you whether you want to wait one month, one week, or one hour to jump into bed with …
By Emma McGowan

Your Pheromones Are Sending Out Signals You’re Don't Even Know About

Cats cry when they’re in heat. Baboons’ butts turn bright red when they’re fertile. Cows spend more time standing up and mooing when they’re ready for insemination. But human females don’t have an immediately obvious sign that we’re fertile. There ar…
By Emma McGowan

7 Interactions We've All Had With Exes On Social Media

Social media has brought a lot into our lives. Information about our best friend from third grade. New ways to take photos of ourselves. A fascination with how food looks, in addition to how it tastes. The election of Donald Trump. Oh — and keeping o…
By Emma McGowan

The Eclipse Probably Didn't Affect Your Period, So You Can Go Back To Worrying About Your Eyes

There’s been a lot of talk about the idea that the August 21 solar eclipse — which, as a reminder, happens when a new moon passes in front of the sun — could be messing with women’s periods this month. This isn’t a new thing — the idea that there's a…
By Emma McGowan

How To Write A Cover Letter That Will Actually Get You Hired, According To HR Experts

For the third year in a row, Bustle's Upstart Awards are honoring young women who are doing incredible things in the realms of business, STEM, fashion and beauty, the arts, philanthropy, and beyond. Want to be an Upstarts honoree one day? Read on for…
By Emma McGowan

What To Do After You've Been Fired, As Told By HR Experts

For the third year in a row, Bustle's Upstart Awards are honoring young women who are doing incredible things in the realms of business, STEM, fashion and beauty, the arts, philanthropy, and beyond. Want to be an Upstarts honoree one day? Read on for…
By Emma McGowan

Most Americans Think This Plant Describes How They Are In Relationships

I love plants. I grew up in a house that felt like a jungle and with a mom who made sure every square inch of our yard was covered with garden. Seriously — even the half a foot between the driveway and house has perennials sprouting up. Plants have a…
By Emma McGowan

13 Tweets In Response To Trump's Transgender Military Ban That Will Inspire You

In the early morning hours of July 26, President Trump announced — on Twitter — that transgender people will no longer be allowed to serve openly in the military “in any capacity.” The president wrote that the military needs to be focused on “decisiv…
By Emma McGowan

There's A Shocking Number Of Fake Abortion Clinics & Here's What You Can Do

Have you ever felt the call to go counter-protest at an abortion clinic? You know — protest the protestors? I have. I think that what abortion clinic protestors do is wrong and part of me absolutely itches to get in their faces and fight back. But, u…
By Emma McGowan

What You Need To Know About Vacation Flings

Vacation. It’s a time for kicking back, relaxing, maybe getting some sun — and having a vacation fling. Vacation flings have the potential to go so many ways, from excellent to “meh” to terrifying. They’re also, according to a 2012 survey by the site…
By Emma McGowan

How To Actually Meet Someone When You're On Vacation

Summertime — and the lovin’ is easy. (Wait, is that not how that lyric goes?) It’s always how it went for me, back when I was single. Starting in sixth grade I would dump my school year boyfriend because I wanted to be free and easy over the summer t…
By Emma McGowan

What The Abortion Rights Movement Can Learn From The Marriage Equality Win

There are two major issues that have to do with sexuality in our culture: Abortion rights and marriage equality. And while the country finally got marriage equality two years ago, abortion rights have taken a beating in the past couple years. Since 2…
By Emma McGowan

This Woman Is Giving Unsolicited NSFW Pics The Audience They Deserve

Picture this: You walk into a funky apartment. It’s got a real ‘70s vibe — a breakfast nook with vintage patio furniture, an avocado-colored fridge, a bed covered in denim with hand-embroidered throw pillows. The walls are yellow and pink and the mak…
By Emma McGowan