Emma McGowan is a sex positive feminist and SFSI-endorsed sex educator whose hobbies include embroidery, sewing ridiculous clothing, oversharing on the internet, connecting with other women, and reading at least three books a week. Her work has appeared in Mashable, Broadly Mic, The Bold Italic, The Daily Dot's The Kernel, and her own site, Kink&Code.

The Woman Behind #PlaneBae Has Apologized — Here's What She Said

Last week, Rosey Blair went viral for live posting on Instagram (and cross-posting on Twitter) about a possible budding romance unfolding between two people seated in front of her on a plane. Blair positioned herself as a modern-day matchmaker after …
By Emma McGowan

The Sneaky Way Social Media Changes Our Day Drinking Habits

Social media influences a lot of what we do these days. We get our news from Facebook or Twitter. We make purchasing decisions based on what we see on Instagram. The president communicates primarily in tweets. And, according to a new survey from the …
By Emma McGowan

7 Things Your OB/GYN Wants You To Know About This Misunderstood Body Part

What do you know about vulvas? The vulva may be one of the most misunderstood body parts on the human body. It’s definitely the most often misnamed. Usually when people talk about that part of the body, they say “vagina.” But it turns out that we’ve …
By Emma McGowan

The One Vibrator That Changed My Sex Life

I’ve never been big into vibrators. I’ve bought a few over the years, but they usually ended up dusty and disused in the bedside drawer once the initial excitement wore off. The cycle was similar to so many short relationships I’ve had: Meet someone …
By Emma McGowan

Bisexuals Are The Largest Group Within The LGBTQ Community — And It's Time To Stop Doubting Us

Pride is upon us. And while we’re out there rocking our rainbows and drenching ourselves in glitter, Pride is also a good time to talk about some of the deeper issues facing the queer community. The first Pride march, after all, was a protest against…
By Emma McGowan

9 Tips For De-Escalating An Argument With Your Partner When You’re In Public

Arguments happen in relationships. You’re human, your partner’s human, and humans — even humans who love each other — don’t always see eye to eye. And while very few people like to argue with their significant other, even fewer like to do it in publi…
By Emma McGowan

The 9 Best Wellness Trips To Help You Recharge After A Burnout

As much as I’d like to believe that I could be the kind of person who embraces mindfulness and goes to yoga regularly, at 31 it’s time to admit that I’m just not. Sure, I’m decent at “self care,” but that more often than not looks like taking on a ma…
By Emma McGowan

8 Things You'd Say To Your Best Friend That You Should Also Say To Yourself

Most anyone who’s ever been to therapy has heard the term “positive self-talk.” In a nutshell, it’s the idea that you should be nicer to yourself in your own internal dialogue. So say, for example, you didn’t get a job that you wanted. Instead of div…
By Emma McGowan

These New Bus Stop Ads Show Real Female Orgasms — But Not In The Way You'd Expect

Starting June 18, San Francisco residents will have an unexpected element added to their commutes: Female orgasms — in disguise. There won’t be any O-faces or body parts or even sex toys. Instead, these are ads that feature a data chart of an orgasm.…
By Emma McGowan

9 Activists Share What They Wish They'd Known Before Their First Pride

When most people think of Pride, they think of rainbow flags. Floats with scantily dressed men bouncing around. Rainbow clothing. Rainbow pins. Rainbow sunglasses. Basically, rainbow everything. And they're not wrong — most Pride parades these days a…
By Emma McGowan

7 LGBTQ-Inclusive Sex Companies That Are Celebrating Pride

June is Pride month, which means that cities across the world are throwing Pride parades, queer people are shouting loud and proud on social media and IRL, and companies big and small are pushing rainbow-themed merchandise. But not everyone is happy …
By Emma McGowan

This NY Politician Actually Stands With Sex Workers — Here's How You Can Support Him

If politicians stand anywhere near sex workers, they’re usually stepping on their backs — not standing next to them. But, this year, there’s one politician who is standing side by side with sex workers and saying, “Enough is enough.” His name is Sura…
By Emma McGowan

Here's What Happened When I Tried Acupuncture For My PMS

Last year, after 20 years of very regular, 28-day periods, my cycle decided to go haywire. I skipped my period one month. Then it came late. Then it came early. And no matter when it started, I was suffering through two full weeks of intense physical…
By Emma McGowan

Why Spending Less Time Together Was The Best Thing That Ever Happened To My Relationship

For the first four years of our relationship, my boyfriend Ben and I were rarely apart. That togetherness started early, when I got a phone call from Buenos Aires. We were both living on the Chilean coast and he’d gone to Argentina for a much-needed …
By Emma McGowan

I Track How Much I Drink In A Spreadsheet & It's Changed My Relationship With Alcohol

I started tracking how much I was drinking last July — July Fourth week, to be exact. That week, I had 28 drinks, 10 of which were all in one day. When I saw the numbers laid out like that — three, two, five, two, three, three, 10, and that final tal…
By Emma McGowan

5 Ways To Be An Ally To The Sex Work Community Right Now

Under the guise of saving trafficking victims, our government passed a bill that may actually increase the amount of trafficking in the sex industry and could result in the deaths of women, trans people, and LGBTQ people in disproportionate numbers. …
By Emma McGowan

Here's Where You Can Rally In Support Of Sex Workers This Weekend

On June 2, sex workers and their allies will dress in red and march through cities across the country. The marches are in recognition of International Whore’s Day (IWD), which was created to commemorate the 1975 occupation of Église Saint-Nizier in L…
By Emma McGowan

9 People Discuss The Alternative Type Of Therapy They Swear By

While the jury is still out on why, it’s pretty clear that mental illness is on the rise in the United States in recent years. Titles like "The Meteoric Rise of Mental Illness in America and Implications for Other Countries" and "The Alarming Rise in…
By Emma McGowan

This New Wearable Could Be Revolutionary For The 75% Of Women Who Experience Painful Sex

A couple years ago, a close friend asked me for advice. He had a new girlfriend and she was in a lot of pain after sex. He wanted to know: Was there anything he could do to help? Was he doing something wrong? From what he described, it sounded to me …
By Emma McGowan

These Ads Were Rejected For Being Too Sexual For The New York City Subway

If you’ve ridden the New York City subway recently, you’ve probably seen ads for Roman, a new app that helps men discretely buy medicine for erectile dysfunction. Or perhaps you spotted an ad for The Museum of Sex, featuring the words SEX in bold typ…
By Emma McGowan