Emma McGowan is a sex positive feminist and SFSI-endorsed sex educator whose hobbies include embroidery, sewing ridiculous clothing, oversharing on the internet, connecting with other women, and reading at least three books a week. Her work has appeared in Mashable, Broadly Mic, The Bold Italic, The Daily Dot's The Kernel, and her own site, Kink&Code.
Latest Articles

This New Wearable Could Be Revolutionary For The 75% Of Women Who Experience Painful Sex

A couple years ago, a close friend asked me for advice. He had a new girlfriend and she was in a lot of pain after sex. He wanted to know: Was there anything he could do to help? Was he doing something wrong? From what he described, it sounded to me …
By Emma McGowan

These Ads Were Rejected For Being Too Sexual For The New York City Subway

If you’ve ridden the New York City subway recently, you’ve probably seen ads for Roman, a new app that helps men discretely buy medicine for erectile dysfunction. Or perhaps you spotted an ad for The Museum of Sex, featuring the words SEX in bold typ…
By Emma McGowan

These Are The 10 Hottest Travel Destinations In The U.S. This Summer

Here in the Northern Hemisphere, the weather is warming up. High schoolers are posting their prom pics. College seniors are freaking out about what they’re going to do next. And many of us are dreaming about summer travel. A high majority, actually: …
By Emma McGowan

7 Fun Things To Do With Your Friends That Don't Involve Drinking

When I was in college, I never imagined that I’d have to come up with events to see my friends. I’d just walk next door, plop down on a couch, and figure out something to do. (Or not do. Just hanging was totally fine, too.) But in my 30s, as both I a…
By Emma McGowan

How To Talk To Your Partner If They Won't Go Down On You

We need to talk about oral sex. Specifically, we need to talk about this nonsense DJ Khaled put out into the world about how he refuses to go down on his wife, even though he expects her to get down there on him. In case you missed it, I’m talking ab…
By Emma McGowan

Here's The Very Best Time To Book Your Summer Vacation If You're Trying To Save Money

Summer is a great time to travel, for obvious reasons. The weather is better. Many offices are more lax about time off. If you have kids, they’re out of school. But there’s one very important element that makes summer not a great time to travel: Cost…
By Emma McGowan

Here's How Often People Ages 18-34 Are Actually Masturbating Each Week

As a sex educator, I’ve said more than once that “everyone masturbates.” And I guess I just assumed that they did; that masturbation was something that most people found their way to sooner or later. But I never had much data to back up my claim, mai…
By Emma McGowan

7 Amazing Trips To Take Before You Turn 30

I started my twenties thinking that I would be a social worker in New York City. I would find a job, start my career, and then do the college-educated thing. I’d get better at being a social worker (or something related), get promoted, and work my wa…
By Emma McGowan

These Two Women Created Condoms You'll Actually Want To Carry Around With You

Safer sex is a feminist issue. And two feminists are taking almost opposite approaches to promoting safer sex and sex-positive culture. On one side, you have artist Whitney Bell, who just released a series of condoms emblazoned with sex positive, fem…
By Emma McGowan

This Airline Was Just Named The Best In The World

People love to complain about air travel and we all hear horror stories about terrible flights. There’s something unique about being stuck in a metal tube in the sky with nowhere to put your legs and uncertainty about the next meal hovering over you …
By Emma McGowan

What It's Like To Work In The Sex Industry Right Now In The Wake Of #MeToo

The employees of Unbound have a safe word. If anyone at this sex toy and sexual wellness company feels like a conversation is veering into an area that makes them feel uncomfortable, they can say “Let’s put this on ice,” and the conversation will sto…
By Emma McGowan

5 Fun Trips That Are Cheaper Than A Weekend At Coachella

For the past five years, I’ve been going to one major music festival per year. It’s an amazing experience: a chance to disconnect from the digital world that I inhabit for most of the other 361 days per year; a chance to connect with a group of frien…
By Emma McGowan

These Are ACTUALLY The Cheapest Days Of The Week To Fly On

Searching for flight deals? Well, you may have heard that if you buy a ticket to fly on Friday the 13th, it’ll be cheaper than flying on another day. (The first Friday the 13th this year is in April and the second is in July.) It could be superstitio…
By Emma McGowan

9 Unexpected Destinations To Add To Your Bucket List

My favorite places are the places that are less talked about. They’re the towns and cities — or sometimes entire countries — that people don’t automatically think of when they’re planning a trip. In my more than five years of traveling full-time, I f…
By Emma McGowan

11 Super Sexy Date Ideas For Couples Who've Been Together Forever

There’s a lot to be said for the familiarity of a long-term relationship. It’s great to have someone you can rely on; someone you can let down the artifice with and just be. However, unfamiliarity and artifice are two major factors for sexual attract…
By Emma McGowan

This Line Of Sexual Wellness Products Wants To Help Prevent Bad Sex Before It Happens

I’ve had plenty of “bangovers” in my day. You know the feeling: You hook up with someone, it’s totally consensual, but the whole thing was kind of… Meh. Disappointing. Not what you set out looking for that night, even if what you set out looking for …
By Emma McGowan

7 Sex Toys That Are Peak Millennial

I, like many millennials, bought my first vibrator at a classic sex shop, complete with creepy old dude who leered at me and my friend as we perused the options. The vibe I finally settled on was blue and nubby and undoubtedly made of some scary, tox…
By Emma McGowan

7 Super Cheap Spring Trips You Can Book Right Now

I spent more than half of my 20s traveling full time. My partner and I moved to a new country every three to nine months, which is just enough time to get to know a place, but rarely enough time to get sick of it. I’ve lived in and traveled through S…
By Emma McGowan

7 Ways To Plan A Trip With Your Partner Super Quickly

Going away with your significant other can be one of the nicest ways to reconnect, reset, and take a little time off. But, unfortunately, taking a couples trip can also be really stressful. If it’s your first trip together, it can come with stress ab…
By Emma McGowan

8 Ways To Stay Close To Your Partner When You're Fighting

My partner and I spent the first few years of our relationship learning how to argue with each other. We had opposite preferences for fighting: Where I liked to yell and slam doors, he preferred to take time to think before hashing things out. In the…
By Emma McGowan