Emma McGowan is a sex positive feminist whose hobbies include embroidery, sewing ridiculous clothing, oversharing on the internet, connecting with other women and femmes, and reading at least three books a week. Her work has appeared in Mashable, Mic, The Bold Italic, The Daily Dot's The Kernel, and her own site, Kink&Code.

Latest Articles

10 Women Reveal Why They Switched To Menstrual Cups — And Why They'll Never Turn Back

Whatever your feelings are about periods, there’s no denying one thing: They’re messy. And the way we choose to deal with it differs from person to person. Some people prefer pads. Some go for tampons. Some are super into “period panties.” Some free …
By Emma McGowan

5 Common Things Survivors Of Sexual Assault Blame Themselves For, But Never Should

A good friend of mine was sexually assaulted recently and she turned to me for help figuring out what to do about it. I’m not going to go into the details of what happened, but I will tell you is that she had a reaction that so, so many assault survi…
By Emma McGowan

11 Life Upgrades To Make When You're Getting Over A Breakup

Breakups are hands down the worst. On an emotional level, when you’re heartbroken, you feel like you’re never going to be happy again. On a practical level, you might lose friends, furniture, or even your apartment. The turmoil after a breakup feels …
By Emma McGowan

Where To Get Sex Toy Deals On Black Friday, Because They're The Gift That Keeps On Giving

Who’s ready for some Black Friday sex toy deals? Because, let’s be real: Sex toys aren’t cheap. Well, sorry, let me back up: Sex toys that are made of materials that are OK to put in and on your body often aren’t cheap. Sex toys purchased from credib…
By Emma McGowan

4 Reasons Your Body Might Not Tolerate Meat Properly

I’ve always thought that my body couldn't handle red meat was because I grew up eating 80 percent vegetarian. My family didn’t have a lot of money and our nightly dinners had six to 12 people at them, so expensive meat wasn’t an option. Plus, my mom’…
By Emma McGowan

These Women Are Completely Revolutionizing Sex Education In Trump's America

Sex ed. The words conjure up an image of classrooms separated by gender, girls learning about their uteruses, while boys learn about their penises. Maybe there’s a condom and a banana in there too, a little bit later on, right? From those very first …
By Emma McGowan

This Illustrated Book For Adults Is The Sex Ed You Should've Had

STDs are on the rise in the United States in a major way. In fact, they’re at an all-time high: According to the CDC, 2016 had the highest number of reported STDs ever. Young people between the ages of 15 and 24 made up the majority of cases, but the…
By Emma McGowan

It's National Parents Coming Out Day & Here's Why It's So Important

October 12 is the first annual National Parents Coming Out Day. Started by the Strong Family Alliance, National Parents Coming Out Day (which is the day after National Coming Out Day) is not, as I first assumed, about parents coming out to their kids…
By Emma McGowan

23 Feminist Quotes To Share On International Day Of The Girl

October 11, 2017, is the sixth annual International Day of the Girl. Started by the UN in 2012, the day was created to highlight the inequalities that girl children still face around the world. Like, for example, the fact that worldwide there are fou…
By Emma McGowan

The ACLU Is Trying To Make The Make The Abortion Pill More Accessible

What would you do if you needed an abortion and you lived in place where there were no abortion clinics? That’s a real-life question faced by women living in countries where abortion still isn’t legal — but it’s also faced by American women, even tod…
By Emma McGowan

Here's What The Future Of Birth Control Looks Like

September 26 is World Contraception Day. And if you’ve ever taken oral hormonal contraception — more commonly know as the Pill — than you know that in order to get your prescription, you have to go to see your doctor. Some doctors require a full gyne…
By Emma McGowan

History of One Night Stands

For most of history, one-night stands just weren’t a thing. The ability to prevent pregnancy is recent — like, less-than-200-years-old recent.
By Emma McGowan & Mary Blount

You Can Let Potential Dates Know You #StandWithPP On OkCupid

If you’re pro-choice, are you willing to date someone who isn’t? What about hook up with them? For me, the answer is clear no. I have a hard and fast “no dating people who don’t think I have the right to bodily autonomy” rule. And now people searchin…
By Emma McGowan

The One Thing You Need To Do Before You Meet Your Partner's Parents

Last summer, one of my brothers brought a girl home after only a few months of dating. We, his six siblings, were like, “Dude, really?” They hadn’t committed to each other yet and there they were, seven hours away from the city they lived in, spendin…
By Emma McGowan

Here's When A Grown-Ass Woman Defines The Relationship

Dating in 2017 is hella ambiguous. Our generation has done a great job of throwing most hard and fast dating rules out the window. These days, it’s pretty much up to you whether you want to wait one month, one week, or one hour to jump into bed with …
By Emma McGowan

Your Pheromones Are Sending Out Signals You’re Don't Even Know About

Cats cry when they’re in heat. Baboons’ butts turn bright red when they’re fertile. Cows spend more time standing up and mooing when they’re ready for insemination. But human females don’t have an immediately obvious sign that we’re fertile. There ar…
By Emma McGowan

7 Interactions We've All Had With Exes On Social Media

Social media has brought a lot into our lives. Information about our best friend from third grade. New ways to take photos of ourselves. A fascination with how food looks, in addition to how it tastes. The election of Donald Trump. Oh — and keeping o…
By Emma McGowan

The Eclipse Probably Didn't Affect Your Period, So You Can Go Back To Worrying About Your Eyes

There’s been a lot of talk about the idea that the August 21 solar eclipse — which, as a reminder, happens when a new moon passes in front of the sun — could be messing with women’s periods this month. This isn’t a new thing — the idea that there's a…
By Emma McGowan

How To Write A Cover Letter That Will Actually Get You Hired, According To HR Experts

For the third year in a row, Bustle's Upstart Awards are honoring young women who are doing incredible things in the realms of business, STEM, fashion and beauty, the arts, philanthropy, and beyond. Want to be an Upstarts honoree one day? Read on for…
By Emma McGowan

What To Do After You've Been Fired, As Told By HR Experts

For the third year in a row, Bustle's Upstart Awards are honoring young women who are doing incredible things in the realms of business, STEM, fashion and beauty, the arts, philanthropy, and beyond. Want to be an Upstarts honoree one day? Read on for…
By Emma McGowan