Kae Burdo
Kae Burdo is a freelance writer, event planner, and social media expert. With over a decade of writing experience, their passions are covering international politics, the vast range of human sexuality, and issues relating to intersectional feminism. A Vermont native, they share their life with their chosen family and their dog. Super powers include, but are not limited to, over-analyzing everything, meta-thinking, and being unintentionally intimidating. Follow them on twitter @kaeburdo.

What Managing Your Money Is Like When You Have More Than One Partner

Money and finances can be a complex issue for relationships, and it can be even more difficult when you're polyamorous. Just like other aspects of our relationships, different poly folk choose to handle their finances in very different ways…
By Kae Burdo

What The Holidays Are Like When You Have More Than One Partner

Holidays are complicated enough when you have just one partner, but when you have more than one? It can get complex, fast. Especially if your parents or family aren't supportive of your relationships; if you feel pulled in multiple directions; or if…
By Kae Burdo

Here's What Thanksgiving Is Really Like When You're Polyamorous

Amidst all of the questions and hope for salacious details about our sex lives and sleeping arrangements, poly folks often also get questions about more mundane issues that can come up in non-monogamous relationships. A big one at this time of year…
By Kae Burdo

I'm Poly, And Here's Why I'm Deleting My Dating Apps

Whether dating apps are causing a "dating apocalypse" or are merely the easiest way to get a date, there's no denying these tools have been total gamechangers in the dating scene within the last few years. And even though dating apps are most…
By Kae Burdo

7 Ways Poly Folk Celebrate Valentine's Day

One of the biggest potential issues in polyamory is figuring out how to handle holidays, and it's one of the most frequent questions I get from curious folk. Who do you spend your birthday with? Whose family do you visit for Christmas? And…
By Kae Burdo

This Is What Queer Spaces Mean To Me

I remember my first gay bar, and I remember all of the ones that came after. Sky. Unity. Le Drugstore. The Mix. Neighbors. Meow Mix. That dark basement club in Berlin; those pop-up pride events in Budapest. But that first one, that first night,…
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Here's The Poly Glossary You Needed

When I first started exploring polyamory, I had so many questions, and I wanted to talk about ALL of my experiences — but I didn't have the right words for a lot of it. How do I describe that feeling I get when one of my partners is in love? What do…
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7 Poly Terms You Should Know

During a recent trip to Seattle, my nesting partner and I were out at a bar on Capitol Hill and sang some (ridiculously awful) karaoke. Afterwards, a Hot Bi Babe came up to us and started flirting. While a guest star in the bedroom wasn't an option…
By Kae Burdo

The Pitfall Of Being Poly

A lot of coverage of polyamory in the media these days is either positive, talking about the advantages of polyamory, or are more on the neutral, informative side. But just like any relationship structure, poly relationships have both pros and cons.…
By Kae Burdo

What It's Like To Be Part Of A Poly Couple

Because my relationships are poly and I spend a lot of my free time organizing poly get-togethers and meetups, my social circle is filled with a TON of other polyamorous people — to the point where I often forget that a large majority of people are,…
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What You Should Never Say to Poly Couples

One of the amazing things about polyamory is that there's no template for relationships. While the media usually emphasizes hierarchical-poly couples, not everyone who is poly is one half of a pair. There are plenty of solo-polys (people who…
By Kae Burdo

4 Myths About Non-Monogamous Couples

When you hear the words "ethical non-monogamy," what do you picture? Monogamish couples who occasionally have a guest star in the bedroom? Open, sprawling poly networks of people who lives alone and date casually? Three or four adults and a bunch of…
By Kae Burdo

9 Things You Should Never Say To Queer Couples

My girlfriend and I were out for drinks at a bar about a year ago. And by girlfriend, I mean "romantic and sexual partner who is a woman," not "friend who is a chick.” A clueless-yet-well-intentioned mutual acquaintance came up and sat next to us,…
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Why I'm Glad I'm Still Close With My Ex

More often than not, I refer to one of my best friends as my brother, because in many ways, it more accurately describes our relationship. He stays the night at the apartment I share with my nesting partner at least once a week. We play video games,…
By Kae Burdo

What People Forget When They Talk About Polyamory

Communication is hammered home to everyone who's new to polyamory as the key to the lifestyle, and for good reason: good poly is only possible with good communication. But despite talking everything to death, we somehow miss a lot of important…
By Kae Burdo

What People Miss When They Talk About Consent

Thanks to living in liberal oasis Burlington, Vermont, I had some form of sex ed at every level of school. Still, “consent” wasn’t a word I heard a lot as a kid; up until I was in high school, it was always framed as a simple “no means no,” and even…
By Kae Burdo

The Most Annoying Myths About Poly Couples

I came out as poly in 2010, after over six years of practicing various forms of ethical non-monogamy in between ill-advised stints of monogamy I would agree to when I was swooning with new relationship energy. Since then, I've been better about…
By Kae Burdo

9 Steps for Coming Out To Your Health Providers

This winter, my partner (well, the one I live with) and I were on the hunt for a new therapist, ready to give couple’s counseling another go after being ghosted by our previous “poly-friendly” therapist. After that experience — and dozens of others…
By Kae Burdo