Kaitlyn Vagner
I am a college student living in the Pacific Northwest who enjoys writing, EDM music, and everything nature. And sex.

16 People Share The One Thing They Do To Combat Dating Anxiety

I suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and dating is my greatest trigger. Dating brings up my deepest insecurities and my darkest moments of failure and rejection. I have been ghosted. I have been stood up. I have been strung along. I have had…
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17 People Reveal The Biggest Thing They Learned From Being Cheated On

When I first found out my long-term boyfriend cheated on me, I felt paralyzed and sickened. In the months that followed, the burning question that dominated my every waking thought was, "What had I done wrong?". I compared every aspect of myself to…
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16 People Share The ONE Way They'll Date Differently In 2018

The New Year is a time of new beginnings and hope for a brighter future. Traditionally, we make resolutions to change our behaviors and mindset so that we can work towards cultivating the best version of ourselves. For many, the New Year is a source…
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20 People Share The Holiday Best Gift They've Ever Gotten From A Significant Other

Finding a holiday gift for a partner can feel like a daunting task. But it's also an important one — giving gifts to our partner fosters intimacy and cultivates a stronger relationship. "Giving to your partner shows that you’re prioritizing the…
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13 People Share The ONE Thing They Do To Beat Stress When They're Home For The Holidays

The holidays can be a profoundly beautiful and magical time. The holidays are also a time that encompass many triggers for our stress and anxiety. We may be struggling with deadlines at school, with family drama, relationship issues, dating woes, or…
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13 People Share Their Best Advice For Meeting Your Partner's Family During The Holidays

There's no doubt that bringing a partner home for the holidays can be a nerve-wracking experience. Add in annoying relatives, questionable fruitcake, and the chaos of a holiday family event and you have a situation that is bound to raise your stress…
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13 People Reveal Where They Have Sex When They're Home For Thanksgiving Break

Thanksgiving back at home can be a magical time, but it presents some challenges, of course. Aside from thinking of the best strategies for how to dodge relatives' political arguments, you're faced with a pressing dilemma. While coming home for…
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This Is How You Know You're Not With The Right Person

For years, time and time again, I found myself trapped in toxic and unhealthy relationship patterns. Through all of my heartbreak, I learned valuable lessons about love, romance, and my own relationship with myself. The most profound insight I…
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15 Millennials Confess The Craziest Thing They've Done For Love & It'll Leave You Shook

Love makes us do crazy things — and sometimes it's not always the romantic gesture thought it would be. I learned this during my first relationship, when I was head over heels in young love. My first threesome with my partner in high school was a…
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The Thing Nobody Tells You About Getting Back With An Ex

Breakups can be devastating. I think of a breakup as a mourning process for the loss of an important person in my life and the loss of the future I had imagined with them. In the aftermath of a breakup, I used to seclude myself from the world. My…
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17 Millennials Reveal The Dating Habits They Want To Drop

During Bustle's App-less April, a challenge to date without apps for 30 days, I pushed myself outside my comfort zone and hit the delete button on all of my dating apps. I felt so empowered by the challenge that I took it a step further and decided…
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15 Millennials Reveal How They Build Trust In A New Relationship

A truly healthy, fulfilling relationship is the culmination of several factors, from communication to compatibility to trust. Trust is how we grow our relationships — it's how we cultivate faith, honor, and respect, and love for our partners and for…
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17 Millennials On What (Or Who) They're Actually Fantasizing About During Sex

During sex, we play with the boundaries of our mind. And, fantasizing during sex is a sign that we have a healthy and fulfilling sense of our sexuality, according to research conducted by the Kinsey Institute For me, my mind during sex is focused on…
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13 Millennials Reveal When They Know It's Time To DTR

In the dating world, I struggle with interpreting the true intentions of my partners. In a world where hookup culture, swiping right, and ghosting someone you're seeing are the norm, dating for Millennials has become such a gray area. The once black…
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What I Wish I Knew Before I Was Ghosted

My torrid love affair with Alex began after a fateful right swipe. After exchanging a few messages, Alex and I agreed to meet for cocktails. From the moment I met him, I was instantly captivated by his charm, his intelligence, his wit, and his…
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How I Learned To Practice Self-Care After A Breakup From Hell

My love affair with my partner was the epitome of an abusive relationship. We stayed up until 6 a.m. talking, with our bodies intertwined. He made me feel as if I was the only woman in the world. Our love was intoxicating. I surrendered myself fully…
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13 People Reveal Their Biggest Breakup Regrets

A breakup is one of the most heart-wrenching, albeit natural, experiences in the process of our life. During the aftermath of a breakup, we are left feeling deep pain and a sense of loss. While they can be incredibly painful, breakups are an…
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What 13 Millennial Women Fantasize About

While masturbation certainly involves a highly physical aspect — we heighten the sensations of our bodies — our imagination is also crucial to stimulating our mind and body. By tapping into the nuances and expansive boundaries of our imagination, we…
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12 Millennial Women On Their Best Self-Pleasure Techniques

Masturbation is an expression of self-love and self-care. By allowing us to get in touch with our most personal selves, it strengthens the relationship between our mind, body and soul. The act of engaging yourself in self-care through masturbation…
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This Is What's Keeping Me Sane During My Break From Dating

When I started Bustle's App-less April Challenge a 30-day dating app detox, I felt stricken with anxiety. My shy personality and reserved demeanor acted as the perfect social crutch for me to interact with new people in ways that I would never date…
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