Kira R.

Recently, my life has become consumed by babies. Specifically, other people’s babies. I'm not complaining, because I actually really happen to like the little blubber balls. But of all the things I love about them, I especially like the fact that…

I can’t remember my first catcalling experience, but I definitely remember the first time I was groped. I was 17 years old, and a few friends and I were at an underage dance club. We were celebrating my friend’s birthday, and having a great time.…

December 31, 2013 was a life-changing day for me. The last six months had been rough for me, for many reasons. I felt lost in my career. My marriage was falling apart. For 28 years, my main mission in life had been to prove to the world that I had…

When it comes to dating and relationships, I was a late bloomer. In fact, I didn’t even have my first kiss until I was 21 years old. Up to that point, my romantic life consisted primarily of fantasies of being swept off my feet. Unfortunately, the…

Three years ago, my then-boyfriend, now-husband and I decided to adopt a cat. We had been living together for a few months and Valentine’s Day was coming up, so we thought we’d celebrate by adding a pet to our family. We never imagined that while…

I'm going to sound like such a social worker when I say this, but one of my favorite words in the whole wide world is "boundaries." Say it with me. Boundaries. It just rolls off your tongue, doesn't it? As a breakup coach and therapist, I often…

Ask this breakup coach why breakups suck and I could go on and on. It doesn't matter who initiates it, or if it's mutually agreed upon; when a relationship ends, tears are often shed by both parties. And given that newly single folks are often told…

Heartbroken women all over the world are faced with quite the task this Valentine’s Day. Their challenge, whether they choose to admit it or not, may simply be to get through February 14th. Many of us who have been in those shoes before know that…

When my best friend asked me to see Selma with her, I almost said no. Race relations in this country have me a little exhausted lately, and the thought of spending two hours watching racism in action kind of bummed me out. Yes, I’ve experienced…

Pretty much all the choices you can make after a breakup fall into one of two categories: the choice to "be" or to "do." Allowing yourself to simply “be” after a breakup is pretty tough. Who wants to sit around being sad or mad all the time? Not me…