Shana Lebowitz
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How to Date Post-College

College life doesn’t always prepare us for post-grad relationships. When you're in school, you more often than not end up hooking up with one of your pals, and either it turns into something serious or you enter a friends-with-benefits situation. The…
By Shana Lebowitz

The Right Way to Break Up With Someone

Sometimes people suck. They cheat on you with your best friend and skip your sister’s wedding to watch a basketball game they could DVR and watch later. In these situations, you probably don’t need to worry about breaking up sweetly — you can just en…
By Shana Lebowitz

6 Signs You're Not Over Your Ex

After the end of a relationship, it’s totally normal to feel depressed and think that you’ll never find anyone you like or love as much. There may be days, weeks, or months during which you listen to Adele's "Someone Like You" on repeat and sleep wit…
By Shana Lebowitz

33 Songs for When Your Heart Gets Stomped On

We know. There is no way you are ever going to smile, laugh, go outside, or breathe again. And while we can’t make the sting of a breakup disappear, we can promise you that everyone — Beyonce and Justin Timberlake included — have gone through the sam…
By Shana Lebowitz

10 Traits to Look for in 'The One'

Ryan Gosling’s abs, JLaw’s ’tude, and Seth Rogan’s sense of humor. Obviously these are qualities we’re going to look for in the people we date. But there are other characteristics that make someone an ideal S.O. — even if that person isn’t red carpet…
By Shana Lebowitz

10 Ways to Fight Fair

She spilled sugar all over the kitchen counter, and now there’s an ant infestation. He neglected to stick up for you (again) when his mom made a backhanded comment about your fashion choices. There are plenty of reasons, big and small, for couples to…
By Shana Lebowitz

Never Say This Stuff to Your Significant Other

There are some lines you know you should never let a romantic partner hear. For example, “I only got though sex with you by fantasizing about my friend’s new boyfriend.” But there are other, less obviously inappropriate statements that can cause equa…
By Shana Lebowitz

What You Can Learn From Being Single

At the beginning of a romantic relationship, you might feel the tendency to kiss your old single self goodbye and never look back. That girl who only brushed her hair once a month and cried during the opening scene of Love Actually — who needs her? B…
By Shana Lebowitz

Should I Get Married? 9 Ways to Know

Sex and the City fans likely remember the scene in which Carrie finds the engagement ring Aidan’s secretly picked out for her and promptly throws up. It’s a sure sign to everyone watching that she just might not be ready to wed this guy. Still, some …
By Shana Lebowitz

How to Break Up With a Friend

Romantic breakups are notoriously difficult, for the dumper as well as the dumpee. But ending a friendship may be just as, if not more, complicated. Maybe you two have been BFFs since preschool, or maybe you have so many mutual pals that it’s impossi…
By Shana Lebowitz

9 Signs You're in Love

You stand on your balcony and wonder what's really in a name. Your heart beats wildly as you peer out at the object of your affection from beneath a masquerade ball mask. You couldn’t care less that your families hate each other. OK, hold up, Juliet.…
By Shana Lebowitz

How to Cope When You Want Someone Unavailable

Call it Anna Karenina Syndrome or the grass-is-greener effect. Almost everyone has found herself drowning in romantic feelings for a man or woman she can’t have — either because the object of her affection is in a relationship with someone else or be…
By Shana Lebowitz

How to Know if He or She Can't Commit

My first relationship began the summer before seventh grade. There were a few weeks of flirting, followed by an AIM exchange in which he confessed he liked me, before he finally popped the question: “Do you want to be my girlfriend?” I answered in th…
By Shana Lebowitz

9 Conversations to Have Before It Gets Serious

How many kids you want, how often you floss, what flavor wedding cake you're imagining — these topics aren’t exactly appropriate for first-date conversations. But by the time you’re in a serious relationship, there are certain subjects you absolutely…
By Shana Lebowitz

8 Ways to Repair a Relationship After You Cheat

So she dug your key into the side of your pretty little souped-up four-wheel drive — oh wait, did you not cheat on Carrie Underwood? Regardless of whom you hurt by being unfaithful and how he or she reacted, there’s no question that infidelity can re…
By Shana Lebowitz

9 Ways to Be Better at This Relationship Thing

Maybe you’re a classic extrovert, while your significant other prefers to stay in and order pizza on Saturday night. Maybe he can’t stand that you check your email in bed. Maybe career success is central to your identity, whereas she thinks of work m…
By Shana Lebowitz

8 Ways Rejection Is Good For You

Here’s one for the “duh” department: Rejection hurts. In fact, research has found that the pain of getting “burned” by a romantic partner is similar to the physical experience of singeing your hand on a hot cup of coffee. But instead of sticking your…
By Shana Lebowitz