6 Ways To Be Sexual That Don't Involve Intercourse

Believe it or not, there's more to sexytimes than you may think. There are plenty of ways to be sexual that don't involve intercourse or penetration. But why, you ask, would someone want to forgo the typical no-pants dance in favor of more seemingly adolescent activities? Well, there are a ton of reasons, actually.

Maybe you have a wicked UTI. Maybe you're saving yourself for Jake Gyllenhaal (or Maggie). Maybe you're not into period sex. Maybe you're just not ready to go the full Monty yet but you still want some together time. Or maybe you just want what you want and your reasons are nobody else's business (you go, girl). No matter the reasons, there are so many ways to get it on without getting it in. In fact, you don't even have have to take your clothes off to have a good time. Unless you want to.

According to Planned Parenthood, outercourse has a whole host of definitions. It's basically anything your imagination can conjure up that doesn't involve penetration. And a whole host of benefits. It's free, it doesn't involve mixing fluids together (for the most part), it has a low rate of pregnancy, and it can be a really intimate bonding experience. Here are six ways to be sexual and intimate that don't involve penetration.

1. Frottage

Frottage is a fancy word for good old-fashioned dry humping. According to Planned Parenthood, this form of outercourse doesn't involve mixing fluids together, so it has a it has a low rate of pregnancy, and it can be a really intimate bonding experience. While men can achieve orgasm through this method, it's also especially good for clitoral stimulation in women.

2. Serious Makeout Sesh

Never underestimate the sexual power of a serious makeout session. Long bouts of kissing can be very intimate and satisfying. While you're making out, you can stimulate your sexy parts with you hands, toys, bedding, or the non-genital body parts of your partner. Or you can just make out all hot and heavy until your lips need medical attention. And, according to CNN, kissing is heart healthy, mood boosting, and even helps prevent cavities. All good things.

3. Skype Sex

It's pretty hard to experience penetration when you and your partner are located in different parts of the world. Well, penetration that involves you parts entering your partner's parts, anyway. That doesn't mean you can't have a meaningful and satisfying sexual relationship. Ask any couple a long distance relationship. They will probably tell you that their situation isn't sexless at all. In fact, some studies suggest that people in long distance relationships have even closer relationships than those in the same location, according to Lifehack. Technology like Skype and FaceTime means you can be together without physically being together. Sexy talk, voyeurism, and even toys connected to phone apps let you get your freak on over the phone. Or Computer. Or Tablet.

4. Sex Toys

Whatever you're into, you can be pretty sure there's a sex toy for that. Sex toys are so much more than just vibrators. You can find a multitude of products that deliver a multitude of sensations to many different areas. Some sex toys can even provide solutions to those with medical conditions that limit sexual response, according to Slate. You can use sex toys solo or with your partner. Even if you do purchase a toy designed for penetration, there's no rule that says you have to use it for penetration. For example, vibrators can deliver powerful clit stimulation without ever entering your vagina. And if it's just prevention of pregnancy and STIs that have you avoiding penetration, then you can insert sex toys to your heart's content.

5. Breast And Nipple Play

Some people can achieve orgasm through nipple and breast stimulation alone, according to Cosmopolitan. It might take some practice and not all people can do it, but with enough patience and foreplay, you might surprise yourself or your partner. You can stimulate the nipples and breasts with your mouth and hands or with toys such as vibrators or nipple clamps.

6. Tantric Sex

Tantric sex is all about creating an intense, focused intimate moment, according to Women's Health. During the practice, you breathe together, meditate together, and focus deeply on sensations. Those sensations can come from any type of stimulation, from massage to oral sex. Those who practice report that they can achieve higher levels of pleasure and deeper emotional connections during sex. Some can even reach climax through breathing and meditation alone. Don't feel bad if you can't get there. It often takes years of serious practice.

Adding one or all of these practices to your sexual arsenal can take your sex game to the next level, but can also increase your emotional connection (if that's what you're into). Plus, more ways to have sex means less chance of a rut. And more chance that you get a reputation as a total bedroom goddess.

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