You're happy... ish. You like to be together... sometimes. You don't fight... except for most days. Whether you've been dating for a few months or a few years, there are telltale signs that your relationship likely won't last. Unfortunately, all of these signs are so easy to ignore — or, once you do realize them, you make tons of excuses. How many times have you told yourself that something in your relationship is "just a phase"? Let me tell you from experience that not having sex and not having real conversations with your partner are not "just phases."
You never want to break up with someone, but causing temporary discomfort is not a good reason to avoid the inevitable. For most of my breakups, my only regret is that I didn't call it off sooner. In retrospect, I see now that I typically break up with someone over a problem that I noticed six months early and made excuses about it.
Some breakups are easier than others. Sometimes you can just move on, truly knowing you're better off. But other times there are more nuanced signs and reasons to move on. As a wedding planner, I've seen couples ignore these signs, and then end up calling off a wedding six months before they're slated to walk down the aisle. Here are seven signs that your relationship probably won't last, so you might want to save both you and your partner some time and just move on.
1. You Don't Touch
Beyond not having sex, which is an obvious problem, a lack of any kind of intimacy is bad news. Do you still hold hands? Do they touch your back when you're walking? Do you ever make out just because, and not as a precursor to sex? You don't need to be engaging in crazy amounts of PDA, but you should feel wanted by your partner.
2. There's No Emotion
3. Your Friends Are So Over It
4. You're Lying To Your Friends
5. The Timing Just Isn't Right
6. You're Just An Option
The cliché that you shouldn't make someone (or your relationship) a priority when you're just an option is very true. If you're just biding your time with someone until you can move, meet the right person, or get a promotion, you're not doing them any favors. And if you aren't sure if you're a priority — you're not.
7. You Don't Talk About The Big Stuff
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