Many people are familiar with the female G-spot. Well, I guess that’s not true, but most of us at least understand the idea of it — even if we don't believe it exists or have never found it. However, what’s even less talked about and explored, is the existence of the the male G-Spot, a part of the male anatomy that’s been coined a “magic button” by both the media and medical professionals. And while some men would guess – or would prefer to discover – that the G-spot is located in his penis or scrotum, the truth of the matter is, it isn’t. It’s in his butt.
That being said, paying attention the male G-spot, aka the prostate, is considered somewhat taboo, thanks in great part to a division of guys living in the Stone Age who still equate anal sex or stimulation with homosexuality. The reality being that these guys are missing out on what could very well be the best orgasm of their lives.
Research gleaned from sex toy manufacturer LELO discovered that 71 percent of men are open to trying prostate massage, eight out of every 10 women are happy to perform it, and most importantly, that prostate orgasms are 33 percent more intense than penile orgasms. So, LELO has released three new sex toys to honor this curiosity: The HUGO, BRUNO, and LOKI.
"Sexual orientation is about who you’re attracted to. What kinds of sensations feel good to you is about where your nerve endings are. Gay men don’t magically get born with extra nerves, and heterosexual men aren’t missing any. Your sexual orientation has nothing to do with what feels good to you,” Charlie Glickman P.h.D., sexuality educator, university professor, and author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners, tells LELO.
So if you feel that your partner is keen to try prostate play, here’s what you need to know about the male G-Spot, and how to give a fantastic prostate massage.
What Is The Male G-Spot?
The male G-spot is a man’s prostate – which is why this erogenous zone also goes by the "P"-spot. It’s slightly larger than a walnut, and is located just under the bladder, about two inches into his anus (on another note: the prostate is what doctors inspect when performing rectal exams). This organ secretes a milky white alkaline fluid that makes up for roughly 30-40 percent of semen, which ultimately protects the semen from acid that can be found in the vaginal tract, thus creating a safer journey for the precious sperm.
How Do I Stimulate The Male G-Spot?
To stimulate a man’s G-spot from the outside, place two fingers on his perineum, which is the swath of skin between his testicles and anus. Since the prostate is located inside his body, you’re going to have to apply some pressure to this area in order for the G-spot to do it’s thing – this is especially important when he’s about to orgasm. What you’re doing by touching his perineum is indirectly stimulating the prostate, which isn’t the most effective way to hit the spot, but is certainly a more convincing alternative than going all in. (A tip: this method can most easily be gauged in the missionary position). With that said, if you and your partner consider yourselves an adventurous duo, you can bravely attempt to reach his G-Spot anally using your finger (and LOTS of lube).
Prior to trying this out, you should first discuss anal stimulation with your partner. If he’s into it, make sure that your nails are trimmed (no fake nails, for all that is holy!) and that you have lots of lube for both your finger and his anus before going in. When ready, gently put your finger two inches inside of him, with your finger curled upward toward his belly button. When you feel a round, walnut-sized ball of tissue, you’ve found his G-spot! To stimulate it, tap or rub the tissue, and gauge which of these he likes better.
There are also toys that can be used on his prostate, in case you don't want your fingers involved. Either way, prostate play is definitely worth having a conversation about.
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