10 Thoughts He Has During Hand Job, Because He Has A Hard Time Relaxing Sometimes, Too

For me, hand jobs started as my first sex act, the beginning of foreplay, and eventually leading into sex. The range of reactions I see when I'm giving a hand job have been varied though. Some men seem to be really into it, giving me directions and moaning when I hit the right spots, while others seem bored, and want me to use my mouth or head for full intercourse. I asked my friend, *Brandon, for his thoughts on receiving hand jobs:

"Don't get me wrong; hand jobs can feel good, but I've been jerking off since I was 12... There's no way a woman can come and know my body like I do. To be honest, most men wish we could just do it ourselves. We like the thought of a woman jerking us off more than how it actually feels."

This got me thinking: what is he actually thinking while I'm giving him a hand job? Is it enjoyable? Is he thinking of how much he wishes it could stop? Is he fantasizing about other things or does he think it's hot? I spoke with 10 men to get their honest take on receiving hand jobs, and here's what they had to say:

1. *Drew, 20:

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"I think of how much I wish I could just take it and do it myself! The only reason guys like hand jobs is because it's hot. We could do it a lot better on our own."

2. *Grant, 23:

"I look at her body, and try to concentrate on coming."

3. *Parker, 25:

"I lay back and close my eyes and just try to relax."

4. *Sam, 22:

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"I wish she used her feet instead ..."

5. *Matthew, 26:

"Hand jobs usually don't feel all that great. So I think of how hot she looks, and how hot it is that she's jerking me off."

6. *William, 29:

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"I just want to grab my d*ck and do it myself."

7. *Alec, 21:

"I think of how I wish it should be in her mouth instead."

8. *Luis, 24:

"I kind of zone out and think of other things, like a hot fantasy or how hot she looks."

9. *Nick, 26:

"Most women don't know how to give a good hand job, like they squeeze too tight or just rub it in all the wrong places, so I try to get myself in the zone to get off."

10. *Andy, 23:

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"I think about how lame it feels that I'm getting a hand job and not having sex."

*Names have been changed

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