Introversion is getting a lot of attention these days. The book Quiet, by Susan Cain, was a New York Times bestseller, and it made the case for the quiet, retiring types in today's corporate culture — where we're likely to get passed over, sat on, and crowded out, because we can't speak up for ourselves if our lives or lunches depended on it. While we're busy being diamonds in the rough, though, we introverts are also suffering severe social anxiety, getting horribly drained by parties, and dreading any encounter with a human being on our daily commute. We will change trains if it means less conversation.
1. The Pain Of The Waiting-For-A-Friend-Outside-A-Party Dance
You know the one. It's a delicate ballet based on poor punctuality. You've turned up to a party where you know nobody save one acquaintance, and they're not there yet. You're now knee-deep in the Waiting Dance, where you must wander around outside the party looking studiously at your phone in a very busy and important manner that implies you can't possibly come inside without confirming this deal, and eventually conclude that binational deal just as — coincidence! — your friend shows up.
Or they never do, and you strike an impressive "I have forgotten something!" pose for onlookers, and leave.
2. The Awkwardness Of Dealing With Grocery Clerks
Seriously, introverts would kiss the inventor of self-checkouts if they could. They would shower him/her in confetti and give them the world's quietest ticker-tape parade. Grocery clerks, however, lead to some decidedly awkward situations. Asking for cash back is stressful.
3. Being Prime Victims For Telemarketers
If we can be seduced into answering the phone (which, frankly, is a tricky proposition at the best of times), telling a person intent on selling us a sunroof or a set of encyclopedias to buzz off is a feat beyond our powers. We find it rough to stand up for ourselves in conversation. It's the same reason we get roped into hideous conversations with Nosy Uncle George, who wants to know about our personal hygiene and tax situation. We can only get away by faking our own deaths or an epileptic fit.
4. Being Too Socially Drained To Even Text
5. Having To Dump Somebody For Being Too Much Of An Extrovert
"I'm sorry. It's not you. Or rather, it's your insistence on having friends, and parties, and an active social life, and insisting that I take part in them like a person who doesn't get completely drained by five minutes of social interaction. You are lovely, and probably very hot, but you definitely require a person you're not going to resent when they want to stay home with a box of crackers and Netflix instead of 'hanging' with you and 40 strangers."
6. Silently Suffering Bad Service & Crappy Products
7. The 4-Day Party Hangover
You did it. You went and socialized with normal people and moshed and talked about movies and debated the merits of barbecue versus pulled pork. And now you cannot talk to anybody for at least half a week, while your social capabilities recalibrate and the tiny reserve of fluid in your people-gland refills. (Note: people glands do not exist, but they seriously feel like they do.) You've been pulled far too thin, and need everybody to stop trying to communicate to you about irrelevant things, like your tax return or not getting arrested.
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