Demi Lovato has a message for everyone listening to her hit single "Cool For The Summer." The song, which include lines like "got a taste for the cherry" and "I'm a little curious too," has been sparking talk about her sexuality. Demi Lovato opened up about rumors she is bisexual in a recent interview with British TV host Alan Carr, and discussed the difference between female stars and male stars admitting to experimentation.
Carr brought up the lyrics for "Cool For The Summer," and asked if they were about a sexual experience with another woman. "I am not confirming and I'm definitely not denying," the pop singer said in response. She added, "All of my songs are based off of personal experiences. I don't think there's anything wrong with experimentation at all."
The 23-year-old then made a great point about how experimentation is portrayed in the media, and how it differs between male and female celebrities. The former Disney star said,
If a very popular male artist in one of his songs came out and said, "I'm experimenting," — if a guy sang this song that was straight — it would be such an uproar. But there's a confidence to a man that would say, "I've experimented with a man," and not care. I actually find that more attractive than saying, "No, no, no, that's so wrong!"
It is worth pondering why there is such a difference, so it is great that Lovato brought this up. And it is also good that she is sending a positive vibe to anyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, who has taken part in experimentation.
Even though the media has undoubtedly become more positive in the way gay stars are portrayed across the board over the years, there is still a marked difference in how people people who don't seem to fall neatly within a category of "straight" or "gay" or portrayed. Much like the reception that Lovato's "Cool For The Summer" has gotten, female stars who have hinted at or even admitted to experimentation have gotten maybe some wide-eyed interviews and tantalizing headlines about it. But there is usually a sort of collective shrug to follow after the hype dies down. Remember "I Kissed A Girl" by Katy Perry? What about that famous VMAs performance where Madonna kissed both Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera?
Instances like those made headlines, no doubt about it. But after the time passed, it was lost in the overarching conversation with these stars. After all, no one is questioning Spears and Perry right now about whether they would actually be happier with a woman. But can you imagine if a very popular straight male artist sang "I Kissed A Boy?" Or shared a kiss with two other straight male artists onstage? We would probably never hear the end of speculation and gossip about whether they were actually straight or not.
It is worth questioning why that is, and there are a variety of schools of thought. Some have suggested that females may be more likely to be bisexual than males, so it may be a numbers thing. Others have offered the explanation that two females experimenting is supposedly more appealing to males than vice versa, so it may also be a societal thing. But no matter what the reasoning is, it is a great thing that Lovato is speaking up for everyone who decides to experiment with their sexuality, regardless of whether they are a man or a woman. After all, anything that helps people accept who they truly are is a great step to self-love and self-esteem. And we all know Lovato is all about that!