Marriage isn't easy, but the work it takes to keep a marriage intact should be fun work, and not feel like a job you never want to do. That's why it's important to find New Year's resolutions for married couples that are mutually rewarding. It should be like cleaning up tags and wrapping paper after opening Christmas gifts, and not like shoveling snow, you know? Resolutions should be fun, functional, and feasible. Because one of the best feelings you can have as a married person is knowing that you are doing everything you can to make your partner feel loved and supported. And they should be doing the same for you.
When you're watching the ball drop on New Year's Eve, snuggled up to your spouse, you should feel optimistic and excited to share another year together. This might be the best year yet. Having a to-do list that makes you put a little extra effort into your marriage will make every other aspect of your life more enjoyable. When you have the loving support of your partner, doesn't everything else seem easier, too? Here are all the New Year's resolutions married couples should have to start the new year off right.
1. Make a date night, and stick to it
Pick a day each week to do something out of the house, just the two of you. Make it a priority, and don't cancel that date night unless it's an emergency, or one of you is out of town. Date night keeps the romance alive.
2. Compliment each other's work
It's so important to feel like your partner is proud of the work you do. You spend more time working than you do doing anything else, so knowing the person you love respects your career will keep you motivated to keep kicking ass in your field.
3. Make each other feel desired
No matter what happens, and no matter how your body changes, your partner should make you feel like the hottest person on the planet. And you need to do the same for them. Feeling desired is extremely key to maintaining the spark you had when you first got together, and it will be what keeps you together until you're wrinkled and gray.
4. Talk more
Without a screen in front of your face.
5. Listen more
Again, without a screen in front of your face.
6. Have more sex
How ever often you're currently having sex each week, have more. Sex with the person you love and trust the most is so much more than just satisfying a sexual need. It solidifies the bond you have, it's a form of communication, and makes you both feel desired.
7. Surprise each other
It could be as simple as leaving a sweet note for the other person in the morning by their coffee mug. It could be as elaborate as planning a surprise romantic getaway. No matter what you do, make sure to keep your partner on their toes.
8. Laugh as often as possible
Having a similar sense of humor will keep you two connected in a best friend kind of way. To be madly in love with your best friend is the ultimate dream, so if you found that, keep it going by doing things, watching things, and experiencing things that make you both giggle uncontrollably.
9. Do something together neither of you have ever done
It's nice to introduce your partner to something you enjoy doing, but learning a new skill together is way more fun. It creates memories that will last a lifetime, and it humbles both of you to be out of your comfort zones in front of each other.
10. Make up as often as you fight
Each argument you have with your mate needs closure. Otherwise, you're both holding onto unresolved hostility. So when you fight, make sure you talk it out, apologize, have some killer makeup sex, and move on.
11. Enjoy some alone time
As important as it is to spend time together communicating, listening, going on dates, and gettin' down, you also need proper time to yourselves. Independence makes you stronger as a person, which will only add to your strength as a couple.
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