There's no way around it, being dumped sucks. Authors know it more than anybody, and there are tons of books about breaking up that explore the emotional trauma you're going through. As much as it sucks to have a broken heart, breaking up has led to some incredible stories. If there's any silver lining, that's it. After all, if Rosaline hadn't ditched Romeo, he never would have met Juliet. (Though, that's possibly a bad example since their love story ended in a double-suicide...)
Whether you've been dating for five days or five hundred years, being broken up with comes with its own devastating package of emotional turmoil. It just feels bad. Your self-esteem gets destroyed, and it's easy to feel hopeless. I'm a big fan of the wallow, stay in your pajamas, eat a metric ton of ice cream, cry enough tears to fill an ocean method of coping with a break up. It's okay to feel pain.
But remember, it does get better. Slowly but surely, it won't hurt as much. One morning, you'll shed your sadness and greet the world with fresh eyes. But as you're going through this hard moment, here's what some great authors have to say about being dumped.
1. “When someone leaves you, apart from missing them, apart from the fact that the whole little world you've created together collapses, and that everything you see or do reminds you of them, the worst is the thought that they tried you out and, in the end, the whole sum of parts adds up to you got stamped REJECT by the one you love. How can you not be left with the personal confidence of a passed over British Rail sandwich?”
― Helen Fielding, Bridget Jones's Diary
2. “I delete the picture of him from my phone; I delete his number. I think that if I just delete him enough, it will be like none of it ever happened and my heart won't hurt so badly”
― Jenny Han, To All the Boys I've Loved Before
3. “Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up.”
― Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum
4. "People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it."
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Lov e
5. “You can never love someone as much as you miss them.”
― John Green, An Abundance of Katherines
6. “When you hate someone you used to love, and you think he's done something awful - he probably has.”
― E. Lockhart, The Boyfriend List
7. "You know the worst thing about being rejected? The lack of control. If you could only control the when and how of being dumped by somebody, then it wouldn't seem as bad. But then, of course, it wouldn't be rejection, would it? It would be by mutual consent. It would be musical differences. I would be leaving to pursue a solo career. I know how unbelievably and pathetically childish it is to push and push like this for some degree of probability, but it's the only thing I can do to grab any sort of control back from her.”
― Nick Hornby, High Fidelity
8. “If you didn't love him, this never would have happened. But you did. And accepting that love and everything that followed it is part of letting it go.”
― Sarah Dessen, Dreamland
9. “Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
10. "You loved me-then what right had you to leave me? What right-answer me-for the poor fancy you felt for Linton? Because misery and degradation, and death, and nothing that God or Satan could inflict would have parted us, you, of your own will, did it. I have not broken your heart―you have broken it; and in breaking it, you have broken mine."
― Emily Brontë, Wuthering Heights
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