What Does The Tiziana Cantone Meme Mean? It Doesn't Matter Because The Real Issue Is Online Harassment
For women across the globe, sexual activity can be a dangerous thing. You run the risk that your partner could decide to go further than you consent, that you could get pregnant and not have access to proper prenatal or abortion care, and if you choose to use technology as part of your sexual activity, there's a real risk that your partner or someone else could use it to hurt you. That's what happened in the case of one young Italian woman, whose videos of her sexual activity were leaked without her consent online. Her personal embarrassment and violation was turned into an international meme, and she killed herself because she could no longer take the harassment. What does the Tiziana Cantone meme mean? It means this is a world where a woman can get internationally shamed for choosing to have sex, to the point where she decides her life is no longer worth living.
According to The Independent, Cantone sent six different videos of herself engaging in sexual activity to five friends, and the videos were online by the next day. Not long after, everyone from famous soccer players to corporate marketers was quoting the video's now-infamous line, “Mi stai facendo il video? Bravo” (which translates to “You’re making the video? Good.”)
Cantone was forced to file legal requests with Google, Facebook, Yahoo, and YouTube to try to remove the videos, which she never wanted public, but was denied in all but one case. She was even in the process of changing her name at the time of her death — the harassment had gotten so bad that Cantone couldn't even be herself anymore. She was found dead by her aunt, having ended her life because of other people's cruelty.
Unfortunately, this scenario is very familiar for far too many women — 34 states and Washington, D.C. have found the problem so rampant that they have enacted laws against revenge porn. Recently, actress Leslie Jones was the victim of revenge porn when hackers posted her nude photos on her public website. The misogynist culture that shames women for being sexual and loving their bodies creates incidents like these, wherein women are severely violated and their inherent right to privacy is ignored. Most cases aren't famous enough to garner significant attention, but when cases like that do happen, there's an incredible amount of shame and pressure that would make almost anyone crack. And the subsequent memes that appear online shouldn't matter at all.
You can say all you want that people shouldn't take nude photos, but it doesn't work and isn't the issue here. Women are absolutely allowed to film anything they want, and they're allowed to expect that it stays solely in the custody of those with whom they have chosen to share the pictures or videos — that should be consistent in any culture and any country.
People can't do things to other people without their permission and it's infuriating that people are still hung up on that part of the argument. It's very clear that not only were the leakers wrong and morally culpable for posting the videos online, but everyone who participated in making the meme are responsible as well. People can't cling to the IRL designation anymore — actions that take place online are just as real as those that don't. It's just as damaging and sexist to shame someone's sexual behavior online as it would be if you said it to their face.
MP Donata Lenzi, the leader of Italy's Democratic Party, announced Tuesday that a proposed law against cyber-bullying and revenge porn is being dedicated in Cantone's honor. Cantone died a terrible and undeserved death, but her story may help other women in the future. Legal action is necessary to save women from this same fate, because it seems the world isn't ready yet to accept women's sexuality and right to privacy. The meme that led to Cantone's death proves that there's still a long way to go before sex is truly safe for women.