There are some people that are constantly amicable in every situation, and although some people naturally have an upbeat disposition, many make particular life choices that help encourage their pleasant persona. If you want to be someone who is extremely likable, you'll want to pay attention to the habits of charming people. By emulating their habits, you too can be someone who is interesting and well-liked by others.
"A charming person is someone who can be okay even when external factors, such as the surroundings and environment, are challenging," says psychologist Dr. Iris Pachler over email. "They’re able to find peace and strength from within and also have the ability to be flexible and accepting no matter the situation."
There are a lot of upsides to being considered a charming person — the obvious being that people are more likely to want to talk to you and befriend you. But having a modest and agreeable personality can also help in your professional life and even pave the way for more opportunities you wouldn't have otherwise.
It's not always simple to change your disposition, but if you want to be more attractive or fascinating to others, consider these 11 interesting habits of charming people.
1. They Smile
Sometimes turning on the charm is as simple as forcing a smile. Research shows that smiling can not only make you more attractive to others, but it can lift your mood as well as others around you, according to Psychology Today.
2. They're Mindful
"Mindfulness allows a person to feel at peace and stay in the moment, not obsessing about the past or the future," says Pachler. "Being in the moment can help you connect to others, take responsibility for self, and not blame others for struggles."
3. They Make People Feel Good
The popular quote "People won't remember what you said or did, they'll remember how you made them feel" rings true. "Charming people make others feel good about themselves," says April Davis, founder of Matchmaking site Luma. "They give genuine compliments and find ways to make each person in the room feel special."
4. They Pursue Hobbies That Give Them Pleasure
Charming people do activities that give them pleasure, and this happiness only feeds their disposition. "Seeking joy in the form of feeding one’s soul, again, can give a person a sense of peace and contentment, giving a charming air about one's self," says Pachler.
5. They Talk With Their Hands
A good conversation involves more than just using your words. Research shows that people who talk with their hands are viewed as more warm, agreeable, and energetic, according to Forbes.
6. They Show Interest In Others
Not many people are drawn to others who only care about themselves. "Others usually appreciate when someone shows interest," says Pachler. "This need can be met by showing genuine curiosity in them."
7. They're Affectionate
"Charming people are affectionate," says licensed counselor Monte Drenner over email. "They will give a handshake, a hug, a touch, something to connect physically with other people. This physical connection makes people feel special, which perpetuates the charm."
8. They Make Eye Contact
It's not enjoyable to have a conversation with someone who is constantly darting their eyes and looking elsewhere around the room. "Eye contact communicates care and concern and makes the person they are interacting with feel significant," says Drenner.
9. They're Authentic
Trying too hard to be someone you're not isn't an appealing trait. "If you know someone is being honest and genuine, you are more likely to trust them and want to be with them," says social worker Edie Weinstein, MSW, LSW over email.
10. They're Good Story Tellers
"Charming people are great story tellers," says Davis. "They have a handful of crowd-pleasers that they can pull out that are sure to entertain. They've practiced them, so their delivery is impeccable." Having a set of talking points can help encourage interesting conversation instead of talking about the weather.
11. They're Encouraging
"Charming people are encouraging," says Drenner. "They will thank others sincerely and give compliments. They make everyone feel like they are real people and not just a number or a wheel in a cog, and they have the ability to make others feel appreciated."
You don't have to change your personality to become more charming, but keeping in mind what qualities are likable can help you better interact with others.
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