10 Things You Should Know About Pregnancy Sex, Because You're Sure Not Going 9 Months Without Getting Laid
Pregnancy sex is perfectly normal and safe. Yet for many, it still seems a little...weird. Kristin Cavallari, who is now pregnant with Baby Number Two, recently told Fit Pregnancy in the April/May issue that her husband, Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler, is super weirded out by pregnancy sex. “Sex is funny when you’re pregnant,” she said. “Guys get weird about it. I’m like, ‘Oh Jay, the baby’s kicking’ And he’s like, not wanting to know about it.”
To be fair to Cutler, I can’t imagine a bigger turn off than hearing that your soon-to-be child, growing in the woman you’re currently penetrating, is communicating with you. Does the baby know what’s going on? Does it feel violated? What if it tries to come out now, mid-intercourse? Will it resent us forever?
The answer to all of those questions is a resounding "no." Here are more things you should know about pregnancy sex.
1. It is safe. You won’t hurt the baby. The cervix and amniotic sac work beautifully in protecting the baby during intercourse.
2. However, it is perfectly normal for either party (man or pregnant woman) to feel a little uncomfortable with the idea of pregnancy sex. Talk about it. And remember, there are a lot of fun things you can do besides intercourse.
3. If missionary is your go-to, you’ll probably need to experiment with new positions. Missionary is especially tricky because it puts too much pressure on your stomach. Fit Pregnancy offers a great guide of the best sex positions for pregnant women.
4. It’s possible your breasts will leak — don't freak out! This is mostly likely to happen in the second trimester. Dr. Lauren, an associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University, told Huffington Post, “If your partner is handling your breasts and nipples, sometimes that's going to cause a little bit of fluid to come out, which can kind of freak people out if they're not expecting it.”
5. You may have a more intense climax, thanks to increased blood flow down there. “People are definitely most surprised that [pregnant sex] can be more orgasmic,” Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright said in The Bump. Many women say that pregnancy sex is the best they’ve ever had.
6. While some women experience a boost in sex drive during their pregnancy, others experience a total absence — whether it’s the nausea, extreme tenderness, or fatigue. Dramatic fluctuations in sexual desire are also normal.
7. Orgasms will not trigger premature labor, even though they cause uterine contractions (which are entirely different from the contractions you experience during pregnancy). These contractions may last for a few minutes after sex, and that’s perfectly okay.
8. After intercourse, your cervix might bleed slightly, because of increased blood volume. No cause for alarm here. This is most likely to happen in your third trimester.
9. If you decide to have oral sex, it is important that no air is blown into your vagina. Yes, really. This can actually send an air bubble into your bloodstream and possibly block a blood vessel, harming you and the baby.
10. Do not have sex after your water breaks! This can cause infection. Also — get yourself to the damn hospital!