The holidays aren’t a particularly sexy time of year. From a lot of enforced family time to bulky layer upon bulky layer before we get to the nudity to all the stress, it wouldn’t be weird if sex fell off the top of your list of priorities from now until Valentine’s Day. But you know what? That would be a shame. That would be almost as big as shame as Thanksgiving without mashed potatoes, which really is a situation that no human should ever suffer through. So if you’re looking for a way to keep your sex life hot and those sexy feels strong during the holiday season, I’d suggest giving your relationship a sex toy for couples.
"Why buy a couples toy for your partner this year? 2016 was a harsh one and we’re all feeling it." Claire Cavanah, founder of the sex-positive sex toy shop Babeland tells Bustle. "This gift-giving season is a great opportunity to heal and nurture the intimate relationships in our lives. A couples toy is a gift for your relationship, a way to stop the drift away from satisfying sex. The gift of a couples toy not only says 'I want you,' it says I want to spend time in bed with you, I want to connect, and I want to get you off. And nothing is sexier than an attentive lover."
There are two ways you can do this: Buy a toy and present it to your partner the way you would any other holiday gift or agree to pool your gift-giving money and pick something out together. Either way, the holidays are a great excuse to splurge a little more money on a toy than you would otherwise. It’s also a great way to bring up an interest that you’ve been nervous about sharing, because nothing says “Please tie me up” quite like an under bed restraint set.
So whether you just want to spice things up a little bit or you're dying to try pegging, here are 11 couples sex toys that you can give your relationship this year.
The We-Vibe 4 Plus is worn on the vagina and vulva, providing G-spot stimulation as well as an excellent clitoral vibe during penetration, or on its own. It's Babeland's bestselling couples vibe and this version even comes with an app for remote control.
If you ever wondered what the person wearing the strap-on gets out of penetrative sex, the Feeldoe is for you. The "plug like" end is designed to be worn inside the person wearing either a single or double strap harness, while the longer end acts like a regular dildo. It also comes with a removable vibe, for extra stimulation.
There aren't as many sex toys out there for people with penises as there are for people with vaginas, which is why the Pulse is so revolutionary. It's worn on the penis and comes outfitted with a vibrator that focuses on the frenulum (the very sensitive dip on the underside of the head of a penis) and another that stimulates the clit. It can also be used for solo play, making it an excellent gift to give your partner if they have a penis.
The Eva made waves last year because it was the first couples vibe that could be worn outside the body without any straps. Designed by women, it tucks inside the labia and stays in place with "wings" on either side. One caveat on this one: Obviously not all labia are the same shape and some folks will need to help keep Eva in place. Regardless, it's a strong little vibe and it's fun to play with.
The Fukuoku 9000 is a finger vibrator that comes with three different silicone attaches for slightly different feels. Use it all over a lover's body to tease them or only their, ahem, most sensitive parts. Either way, it's a great way to explore new sensations together.
I've always felt like under the bed restraints are bondage for lazy people, but in the best way. There's no tying required: You just set them up under your mattress, tuck them away when you're not using them, and easily access them when it's time to play. The velcro cuffs make them easy to remove when you're done and also allow for a range of configurations.
7. Pride Dildo
In light of the recent election, I just had to include this rainbow colored dildo. I mean, you get, right? Get a little political and wear your pride in bed.
What's not to love about the OhMiBod Club Vibe? This sleek vibrator can be worn right inside your underwear, up against your clit. It has a music-responsive mode that pulses with whatever you're dancing to or your partner can control it with a remote control which connects to the toy via vibrator for easy storage.
When you and your partner are interested in exploring anal in new ways, make sure you check out the Je Joue Nuo Remote Vibe. While the base stimulates the perineum, the internal part of this plug faces straight upward for prostate stimulation. It's also totally controllable by a remote that looks like a pen, allowing for discreet control from up to 50 feet.
Maybe you've been thinking about pegging ever since seeing that episode of Broad City or maybe you have a vagina and your partner has a vagina but you're interested in adding some strap-on action. Regardless, the Babeland Beginner's Strap-On Set has everything you need to get started: a leather harness, three interchangeable rubber O-rings, a Sterling Vibe with one set of watch batteries, a two-ounce tube of body-friendly BabeLube, and a bag to keep it all in.
11. Moregasm Set
When you're ready to really splurge and go all out, the Moregasm Set has everything you could want or need. The Babeland team picked the best and most popular toys from their book Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex and created a package that truly is the whole shebang. It includes the Rabbit Habit, Orchid G, Laya Spot, Fukuoku 9000 Finger Vibe, Sonic Ring Kit, Little Flirt, BabeLicious flavored lubricant, BabeLube Natural, a Babeland Body Massage Candle, Babeland Condoms, and a copy of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex.
Now you have no excuse to let winter get in the way of feeling and acting sexy! Whether you're into bondage, pegging, or just a little more excitement, there's a couples toy for your relationship.
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