It's part of my general philosophy of life that very few people in this world should every actually be required to explain why they're not coupled up with another person. A lot of the time singleness isn't this hugely complicated, fraught state of being, you know? But I'm still all here for Bill Murray's explanation as to why he's single. He doesn't need to qualify his life for me, but I'll always welcome further insight to Murray's brain, because it seems like a particularly interesting one.
This particular line of questioning came about during an appearance Murray made on Howard Stern's show and Stern entered into it all subtle-like with this question:
Is there something you question in your own life on why you haven't found that great love of your life?
That's a mightily overwhelming question, right there. Murray handles it with aplomb though:
I don’t think I’m lonely. It would be nice to go to some of these things and have a date...to have someone to bring along [to George Clooney’s wedding]. It would have been fun to say, ‘This is going to be fun. We’re going to walk around the most famous golf course in the world.' But there’s a lot that I am not doing that I need to do.Just something like working on yourself or self-development or something...becoming more connected to myself. I don’t have a problem connecting with people. My [issue] is connecting with myself. If I am not really committing myself to that, then it’s better that I don’t have a different person.
He also makes reference to his six (SIX) sons from his two ex-wives:
What stops [any of] us is we’re kinda really ugly if we look really hard. We’re not who we think we are. We’re not as wonderful as we think we are. It’s a little bit of a shock...it's hard.
[...]I do think about that. I'm not sure what I am getting done here. I do have kids. I have children that I am responsible for and I enjoy that very much. And that wouldn’t have happened without women.
You do you, Bill Murray. You do you.