8 New Year's Resolutions For Extroverts Who Want To Make 2015 the Best Year Ever
This one’s for all the extroverts out there (and the introverts who want to share this with their super social friends). Yes, 2014 has been a good year, but 2015 is around the corner, and it’s promising to be a great year — which is why we’ve come up with a few New Year’s resolutions for extroverts to make sure that this year lives up to its fullest, brightest potential. One of the great things about growing up is that you become increasingly well-rounded and aware of the impact you have on other people, and you, my friend, have so much incredible energy to offer.
This year, go ahead and continue to constantly surround yourself with people you love, but don’t be afraid to just hang out by yourself every now and then, too. Everyone needs a little down time and a space to reflect on past decisions they’ve made. That doesn’t mean you should completely disconnect yourself from the world and hide under the covers for days on end. But the joy you experience being around other people is only as powerful as the joy you experience being by yourself. And nothing compares to having a sense of mental clarity and peace of mind. Here's to a happy 2015!
1. Listen more.
Next time you have a serious conversation, try not to interrupt or think about anything other than what the person is saying to you at that very moment. Along with simply being polite, listening to another person’s story builds empathy, and creates a profound connection that just can’t be replicated. Focus on talking with someone instead of talking at them. You’ll begin to absorb the world differently, I promise.
2. Ask other people questions.
This one seems pretty obvious, right? I’m sure you always ask other people how their day is going. But this resolution becomes even more powerful when it’s coupled with #1 — instead of anticipating a person’s response after asking them something, listen to what they’re really saying. Then, ask a followup question that relates to what that person has just said (instead of thinking about your next response).
3. Spend more time alone (but don't give in to FOMO).
It’s great to constantly surround yourself with friends, but the best way to find out what your heart and mind truly need is by spending time alone with your thoughts. Coping with loneliness is a skill that needs to be cultivated, just like being organized or managing your time. There will most likely be periods of time in your life when you will be by yourself. Learn to revel in them.
4. Volunteer for a cause you care about.
You’re good at being open, friendly, and sociable, so put those amazing communication skills to good use! There are a ton of organizations that could use people with your skill set to make a difference.
5. FINALLY get to know that person you've always wanted to learn more about.
When you have a big circle of friends and acquaintances, it’s easy to forget the ones who occupy the outer spheres. Break the ice, and make a vow to strengthen your friendship with this person (or to start a new one!).
6. Keep things to yourself.
It’s great to let people in on how you're feeling, but it's also great to sit with them and experience your thoughts on your own. And not to be the bearer of bad news, but not everyone who you confide in will have your best interests at heart; protect yourself. Try waiting 24 hours before telling one of your friends that news you feel you just HAVE to share. In the meantime (especially if you feel like you’re about to burst), try to write down how you feel. Which brings us to our next resolution …
7. Try to record your thoughts.
Whether you do it on your computer or in an actual book, journaling is like taking a snapshot of your feelings at a particular moment in time. Problems that seemed too big to handle at one point of your life will soon be another simple blip on your radar. And it’s awesome to look back at your journal six months after the incident and see how far you’ve come.
8. Host a party so all your friends can finally meet each other.
Because really? Who doesn't love parties? You're the ultimate social butterfly, so round up your friends from all corners of your life and introduce them to each other at one huge epic bash. You know what they say — the more the merrier, right?
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