12 Mindy Kaling Quotes About Dating & Relationships, Because She Always Says What You're Thinking

Mindy Kaling is the best person on the planet because she always keeps it real. Recently, Kaling revealed to Ellen DeGeneres that she has trouble having one-night stands "because I have my medications that I have to take at night! I have to be at my house and do my flossing. I have all that stuff. And you didn't want to know that, but..." And you know what she is so right. We have all been there.

Yes, Mindy Kaling is saying what I'm thinking here, but she also says the things I never thought of, but that are actually so true. The actress does not give out preachy and pretentious dating advice like some celebs might. Everything she says about dating, boys, love, and everything in between is beyond relatable. Click through for 12 gems from Mindy Kaling.

On Wanting To Relive The Early Stages Of Dating


In a Good Houskeeping interview, Kaling said, “If I could relive the first three months of courtship over and over for the rest of my life, I would. Especially in winter, who doesn’t like a nice heavy seven-course meal with lots of alcohol, then making out when you’re a little tipsy and taking a cab home to fall asleep in the clothes you wore on the date? Wait. Actually that was, like, my whole 20s. And it was very fun.” I never thought of it before, but Kaling is right. There’s no better rush than the beginning of a relationship.

On Having Kids


Mindy Kaling told Flare, “This has been the first year I realized that if I want to have three kids, I need to get going.” Hey, there’s nothing wrong with admitting that you want a certain amount of children in your life. This is the kind of goal that many of us set and it’s OK to have a life plan.

On Not Needing Marriage...

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Kaling told Good Housekeeping, “I don’t need marriage. I don’t need anyone to take care of all my needs and desires. I can take care of them myself now.” Kaling knows that she is the one in charge of her own happiness.

...And On Wanting Marriage

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Kaling told Howard Stern about her relationship with ex-boyfriend BJ Novak, ”I was 24. But for the record, if anyone had asked me to marry them, I would have said yes.” Yes, Kaling has also said that she doesn’t “need” marriage, but there’s nothing wrong with desiring something that is not “necessary” and admitting that to the world.

On Having A Love/Hate View Of Being Single

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When talking about being single, Kaling told Glamour that she is “enjoying-slash-tolerating it.” No quote sums up my current existence better than this. I am not out there “searching for a boyfriend,” but I wouldn’t mind having one.

On Getting Crushes Easily

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Kaling admitted to Glamour that “I have crushes on celebrities or people I meet or see in the coffee shop, and every day I fall in love with three people simply because they said one funny thing or appeared to me in a certain way.” It’s so nice to just “be in like” with someone. It’s such a great feeling to have happy feelings without any baggage attached.

On Revenge

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Kaling joked in her book, Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?, “You should know I disagree with a lot of traditional advice. For instance, they say the best revenge is living well. I say it’s acid in the face — who will love them now?” It’s not always easy to take the high road and sometimes it’s hard to want to take that route. Sometimes you are just bitterly angry and can’t hold that in.

On Romantic Comedies

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With a sense of realness, Kaling said, also in her book, “I simply regard romantic comedies as a subgenre of sci-fi, in which the world created therein has different rules than my regular human world.” I have never related to any romantic movies or TV shows and I am glad that I’m not the only one who feels this way.

On Monogamous Relationships

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In her Book Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? , Kaling wrote, “It makes me cry because it means that fewer and fewer people are believing it’s cool to want what I want, which is to be married and have kids and love each other in a monogamous, long-lasting relationship.” Just like there’s nothing wrong with not being in a traditional, long-term relationship, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to share your life with others either.

On Just Kissing

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In an interview with Chelsea Handler, Kaling said, “The problem with kissing, when you’re older than 16, [is] you can’t kiss a guy for like two hours, which is what I would want to do, because at a certain point, they’re like, ‘What is this leading to?’” Sometimes you just want a kiss and only a kiss. We all can miss this innocent mindset from time to time.

On Wanting To Be Wanted

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Again from her book, Mindy Kaling said what we have all thought at some point with this quote: “In my mind, the sexiest thing in the world is the feeling that you’re wanted.” There is something so nice about knowing that another person thinks highly of you and wants to be around you. Happiness should come from within, but this is just a plus.