Is Sexting Cheating? 17 Bustle Readers & Experts Define Infidelity, Because Facebook, Emojis, And Texts Are Blurring The Lines

Sexting, Facebook messaging, emailing, sending flirty emojis… All are innocent enough activities between you and your significant other. However, when these things occur outside of your relationship with a third party, it may not be as black and white an issue. Chances are, many of us have been on one end of the spectrum, whether we were in the relationship or out of it. There are lots of varying opinions on the matter, but what counts as cheating these days?

"In my opinion, technology can easily start affairs whether physical or emotional," said Ana M. Aluisy, a mental health counselor and marriage and family therapist. "Technology provides a safe place to communicate intimate information with someone other than your partner at a distance.Creating intimate moments with other than your partner can be considered by many like cheating. Ultimately, it depends on your partner's expectations of how to exercise the trust given."

Cheating has also become a big business—private eyes, computer forensic specialists, and even a flying security camera are all ways to see if your partner or spouse is cheating. "Cheating's always been around, but technology has changed how humans interact with infidelity," said Jackie Wu, founder of a flying security camera that syncs to your phone. Just as you can use technology to enable affairs, so too can you use technology to catch it."

We asked Bustle readers—and some other experts—to chime in on what they consider to be cheating, especially in this technologically-heavy age.

1. Shane, 34

2. Courtney, 38

3. Zach, 24

4. Mark, 45

5. Mick, 35

6. Scott, 32

7. Anne, 51

8. Dr. Suzana E. Flores, clinical psychologist and author of Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships, And Lives

9. Ana M. Aluisy, mental health counselor and family therapist at Come Get Help, LLC

10. Dr. Jane Greer, marriage and family therapist and Shrink Wrap media commentator

11. Dr. Jess, Astroglide's resident sexologist

12. Lori Bizzoco, relationship expert and executive editor and founder of

13. Wendy Newman, sex/dating/relationship expert

14. Tina B. Tessina, PhD, aka "Dr. Romance", author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams Media)

15. Ari Morse, licensed private investigator and vice-president of Locaters International, Inc.

16. CJ Carter, MBA, creator of the LOV dating app

17. Niall Cronnolly, president and lead computer forensics investigator at Eagle Investigative Services, Inc.

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