Finding our soul mate is a romantic vision for many, but one that feels like an elusive fantasy; an ideal we may never realize. But even if we do realize that fantasy, do you even know what you're looking for? And how do you know if you've met your soulmate?
“Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction."
1. You feel comfortable
You probably have the grand awareness that you know and appreciate this individual. "It's as if you can relax into a relationship with him/her because you're understood, cared-for and safe. You could find yourself thinking this is what you've been looking for your whole life," says Brown.
The surest sign that you met your soulmate has nothing to do with passion, shared interests, good times, or great conversation. "The way to tell if you've met your soulmate has to do with silence. When you feel like you can just be quiet with someone else and just enjoy the beauty of a moment together, that's when you know that you've met your perfect match," says Dr. Ben Michaelis, a clinical psychologist and author of Your Next Big Thing.
3. You "get" each other
This does not mean all will be perfect and you'll forever feel like you're walking on a cloud. If you primarily experience an unrealistic high, a feeling of being groundless, or the sensation of sitting on a roller coaster that's going too fast, something's off, says Brown. "With your soul mate, you're more in the zone of knowing and understanding each other; expecting life will be a mixed bag of the good, the bad and the indifferent," says Brown.
4. There's often a feeling of endurance
You just know that you have a connection you can trust. This includes trusting it over years of separation; even if the person passes away, says Brown.
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