7 Ways To Tell Someone They're Not Good In Bed, Because You Can Be Honest Without Being A Jerk
There's a saying that compares bad sex to bad pizza — which basically states that even when these two things are bad, they're actually, surprisingly still pretty good. And for most dollar slices and random hookups, I'd tend to agree. But what if you actually, really like this new person that you're sleeping with...but they're just (literally) not hitting the spot? Or even worse...what if they think that they're actually good in bed? In fact, what if they consider their less than stellar performance to be totally awesome. Really, how do you tell someone they're bad at sex? Are you supposed to break someone who has that kind of spirit?!
Plus, when are you even supposed to bring this up, anyway? Right after the deed is done, but before they pass out after all the err...hard work that they did? Can good sex even be taught?
While some people are just not up for the challenge of showing a new partner all of the ins and outs, I spoke to a few earnest fornicators who agreed that honesty is the best policy when it comes to getting what you want between the sheets. Read on for their recommendations on how to let your partner know that he or she is just not cutting it.
1. Kara, 27
"Let's try that again. I mean, if it's fresh in your mind you can try and correct what made it so bad, no?"
2. Chris, 27
"Be like, 'Why don't you let me do all the work?' Because you know what you like, so don't be afraid to get it...even if you have to do all the work yourself."
3. Andrew, 27
"'It's not me, it's you' is totally fair to use here. Life's too short to silently accept bad sex."
4. Kate, 32
"Practice makes perfect. I'd be verbal about the fact that you have a lot of practicing to do."
5. Kyle, 24
"Some guys are probably going to tell you that they'd just peace out, but my last girlfriend and I really worked to get from not so stellar sex to mind blowing. Sometimes it takes work."
6. Tara, 23
"You've got to ask for what you want. Rather than criticize your partner for what they're doing wrong, show them how to do it right."
7. Monica, 26
"Just be like, 'Do me like this,' and do it. He'll remember next time, trust me."
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