No relationship is perfect, and every couple has their own share of ups and downs. However, what separates happy couples from miserable couples is how arguments are handled. There a number of things happy couples do when they fight that make their arguments more productive and less hurtful, and knowing these behaviors can help you improve your own relationship as well. All couples are unique, but certain habits prove to be more effective when it comes to disagreements.
Contrary to what you might believe, fighting — the proper way — can actually be healthy and strengthen your relationship. “When couples have fights, that is a sign that they feel comfortable enough to express their differences without feeling like their entire relationship could implode,” says sex and relationship expert Megan Stubbs, EdD, ACS over email. “When one party constantly goes along with what the other does, it can be a sign that they don't feel secure in the relationship. They don't want to upset the status quo for fear of the repercussions.”
Bottling up your feelings isn’t right, but neither is exploding on your partner and making them feel bad. If you feel like your fights are more destructive than productive, try paying attention to these nine things that happy couples do when they fight.