Each February, the search for feminist quotes about romance winds up being harder than it should be. As a celebration of romantic love, Valentine's Day highlights how much pressure is put on women to find fulfillment in another person — not exactly the kind of idea that promotes gender equality. On the other hand, nobody wants to come across like they don't love and value their partner. Usually, the easiest option is just to grit your teeth and buy the least heteronormative Valentine's Day card you can find, which is a tall enough order in the first place.
Although feminist quotes about love may seem few and far between, they're definitely out there, particularly in the writings of proto-feminist authors like Charlotte Bronte and Jane Austen. Finding a quote short enough to fit on a Valentine's Day card without resorting to handwriting so tiny as to be illegible, however, is a different story. Fortunately for you all, that's where I come in: Below, you'll find 11 quotes about love from feminists. Sometimes, they're speaking through their characters; other times, it's purely their own thoughts. Most importantly, each is both feminist and concise enough to write on the inside of your loved one's card — check them out below.
1"I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man... who has the courage to treat me like a woman."
— Anais Nin, essayist
2"I am my husband's life as fully as he is mine."
— Jane Eyre, Jane Eyre
3"Do not consider me now as an elegant female intending to plague you, but as a rational creature speaking the truth from her heart."
— Elizabeth Bennet, Pride and Prejudice
4"Any marriage is work, but you may as well pick work you like."
— Mindy Kaling, actress and writer
5"I was in the middle before I knew that I had begun."
— Mr. Darcy, Pride and Prejudice
6"Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust."
— bell hooks, feminist author
7"In love there is no because, no reason, no explanation, no solutions."
— Anais Nin, Henry and June
8"Men are from Earth, women are from Earth. Deal with it."
— George Carlin, comedian
9"What does the brain matter compared with the heart?"
— Virginia Woolf, Mrs. Dalloway
10"You don't love someone because they're perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they're not."
— Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper
11"In all the world, there is no love for you like mine."
— Maya Angelou, poet, activist, and memoirist