11 Subtle Signs You’re Too Negative With Your Partner & It's Affecting Your Relationship


When you're dating someone, not everything is always perfect, and part of being in a relationship is pushing your partner to grow. However, there are certain boundaries when it comes to complaints and criticisms. Spend too much time dwelling on the bad, and you may start to exhibit some signs you're too negative with your partner. Even if you're coming from a good place, you never want to put too much emphasis on the downsides of a relationship, and you could end up hurting your partner or pushing them away if you're always nitpicking at everything they do.

"Being too negative in a relationship can have many damaging effects on both parties and on the relationship itself," says Laurel Steinberg, PhD, relationship therapist and professor of Psychology at Columbia University, over email. "Negativity makes other people feel depressed, is a total buzz-kill, and can be a self-fulfilling prophesy. Negativity also reduces libido and the frequency and quality of sex that couple could be enjoying."

To make sure you're not harming your partner more than you're helping them, watch out for these 11 subtle signs you're too negative with your partner and should probably start looking more at the positive aspects of your relationship.