11 Women On Reddit Share How They Know Someone Is A Keeper

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How can you tell if the person you're with is a keeper? It's totally natural to keep your eyes peeled early on for signs that someone might be a good match for you. For some people, there may even be one trait that sticks out as being more important than the rest.

"You need to look for the random acts of consideration and kindness," psychologist Nikki Martinez tells Bustle. "These are the things that will last you. For example, my toilet paper and paper towels have been magically refilled since a month into dating my husband." And kindness is definitely crucial for some, but it may not be the decisive factor for everyone — we all have different ideas of what it means to be a good partner.

A recent AskWomen Reddit thread looked at just that — how do women decide if the person they're dating seems like they could go the distance? And the results were interesting, because even though there was a huge range in the answers, it all came down to people's personality. Looks, income, and the more superficial traits just didn't do it. So what things actually make someone a keeper? Here's what the folks of AskWomen Reddit had to say about the matter, because being able to own your emotions is key.