13 Women Who Live With Their Partners Reveal How Often They Actually Have Sex

Andrew Zaeh for Bustle

How much sex do couples really have? It's easy to start wondering if the amount of sex you're having is the same as everyone else. Over the course of a relationship, the amount that feels right to you might change — and then you might wonder all the more. Luckily, a recent AskWomen Reddit thread had women who live with their partners sharing the amount of sex they actually have. And the results were really interesting.

But before you start comparing your number to the people of Reddit, remember that there's no "right" amount to have sex and there's definitely no "normal" sex drive. "A healthy sex drive is different for each person," Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure, tells Bustle. "Overall, it's when we feel balanced in our desire (it feels good to us, as opposed to something being off whether too high or low) and sexually fulfilled whether it's alone or with a partner." Even the people in the Reddit thread were constantly commenting on how big the range is — and that, no matter what works for you, it's totally OK.

So how much sex were these real people having? From more than once a day to less than once a month, there was really a lot of variation. Here's what the people of Reddit had to say.