Anyone who's tried to make a relationship work will probably agree that it helps for you and your partner to have at least one thing in common; in fact, some might say that if you have everything in common, even better — the shows you love to watch, the places you like to visit, how you like to spend a Friday night, and if they hate mushrooms as much as you do, we call that the jackpot. It's a match made in heaven. But perhaps, are there some things people in a relationship shouldn't have in common?
There's something to be said for not sharing everything. Is it really in your best interest to have everything in common? Stephanie Coontz, who's spent decades studying and writing about marriage, offers valuable input: "It’s not so much the case that couples must share hobbies and interests. But it is essential to be interested in your partner, to experience joy in their joy."
Don Cole, a certified therapist for couples counseling, agrees with Coontz, adding that the second thing couples should have in common is a "shared meaning of the relationship."