Dating often settles into a boring script, especially in the age of rapid-fire Tinder swiping. Match, chat, meet for drinks, small talk, maybe you vibe maybe you don't, repeat. Wouldn't you like to inject a little magic into your love life? Of course you would! So let's talk witchcraft, friends.
Although witchcraft is a centuries-old pursuit, these past few years, we have enjoyed an extended season of the witch. A sea of think pieces offer a few suggestions as to why this trend popped up: Growing aversion to Christianity among some young women; a pop-culture driven conception of feminism; just some hipster stuff. Perhaps the fact that our leaders have launched an assault on the environment means some people feel a more urgent connection to nature. In any case, witchcraft has become a lot more popular and a lot more visible in recent years. Which makes executing pre-date magick a lot more accessible.
When undertaking a spell that implicates others, however, it's best to tread lightly: If you attempt to control someone else's free will, it may definitely backfire. "When it comes to working on someone in particular, be wary of consent," Melissa Madara, a folk witch and herbalist who owns Catland Books in Brooklyn, New York, tells Bustle.
"This year, there’s been a lot of discussion about consent as it relates to love magic," she says. "I think that basic attraction stuff is fine. We do plenty of things to make ourselves attractive that aren’t witchy," like buy clothes and perfumes and fun shoes and other adornments. As long as you're treating enchantment-boosting spells as another of these enhancements, and not specifically trying to snare Sarah from two cubicles over, you should be fine. Focus on boosting your own vibe, rather than targeting others.
The kind of spell you choose, and the kind of ingredients you need, will depend entirely on the desired vibe you wish to create for your date. To help you ideate your magickal evening, here are some spells and rituals geared toward an assortment of different scenarios to try before your next date.