Getting stuck in a sex rut is a struggle that many couples face. Especially if you've been together a long time or if you live together, it's normal to have your sex life take the occasional nose dive. But when that happens, don't ignore it — it's so much better to fight the complacency. “It’s important to maintain the health of the relationship and not become complacent, too comfortable, or too set in our routines once we live together,” Ravid Yosef, dating and relationship coach at LoveLifeTBD.com, tells Bustle. “While the fire won’t always burn as strong as it did in the beginning of your relationship, it doesn’t have to dim either." And one of the best ways to keep that fire going is to keep mixing things up in the bedroom.
It's way too easy to fall back on our same old sex routines — to have sex less and less and, when you do have it, always having it in exactly the same way. A change in location or a new position can be enough to jolt you out of a rut. So if you feel like the fire is fading, here are seven sex positions that can help you get your sex life back on track.
1. Sideways Straddle
How To Do It: Don't be afraid to use lube. With your partner laying on their back, straddle one of their legs while facing away from them. Slowly lower down and guide them inside of you. Don't worry if it takes a couple of tries, it's a tricky one at first.
Why It Works: This position almost definitely isn't in your normal repertoire. Because it's unusual, you need to really focus and connect. Plus, they get a great view and you get the G-spot stimulation.
How To Do It: Lay facing each other, with yours pelvis just slightly above theirs. Move your top leg over their hip as you bring them closer. Practice with different height combinations until you find something that works. It should feel relaxing, once you get it right.
Why It Works: It's an incredibly intimate position, so you both can really reconnect — along with benefiting from a tight fit.
How To Do It: They sit cross-legged on the bed while you lower yourself onto them, before wrapping your legs and arms around. It may take a few tries, but once you're there it should be really comfortable.
Why It Works: Another intimate position, this allows you to connect but with a whole lot of intensity. Once you've got it down, it should be a great combination of deep penetration and grinding that stimulates your clit.
4. Sofa Brace
How To Do It: It's just like doggy, but drape your torso over the edge of the sofa and hold on.
Why It Works: This is a position you can make work in a lot of different places, which makes it perfect for spicing up your sex life. Move out of your comfort zone with an animalistic position that allows for amazing penetration — and you can do it in your living room.
5. Reverse Cowgirl
How To Do It: Facing their feet, lower down and guide them inside of you. It can be all about grinding, bouncing, clit play — whatever feels great for you.
Why It Works: About as wild as it gets, this position will help you feel sexy while they get to marvel at how confident and sexy you are.
6. Coital Alignment Technique
How To Do It: Think of this as missionary plus. Place your hips slightly lower than you normally would and wrap your legs around their torso. This will make sure your clit is getting extra stimulation.
Why It Works: This position is great for female orgasm, so if you're feeling like things haven't been working, then it should help get you there faster. Plus, it's got the intimacy of missionary but with a whole lot more intensity.
7. The Bridge
How To Do It: Start in missionary or just lie on your back with your knees bent. As you lift your butt up into a bridge, they should come onto their knees right along with you.
Why It Works: It's an unusual position, so that helps break the rut, plus you both have a very sexy view of each other. Hold it for as long as you can, then really go for it in missionary.
Getting into a sex rut with a long-term partner can be really frustrating, but it happens to the best of us. Don't ignore the problem, just tackle it head on by trying something new.