If you realize that you don't feel connected to your partner anymore, it's time to take action. There are plenty of little ways to touch base with your partner, but it doesn't always give you what you need. "Couples try to get each other’s attention throughout the day, whether it’s for support, conversation, interest, play, affirmation, feeling connected or for affection,” relationship coach and therapist Anita Chlipala tells Bustle. “Each of these moments is an opportunity to connect with your partner. A person should look for someone who responds to them, or at least acknowledges them when they try to get their attention, because it shows that they are meeting your emotional needs — or at least trying to.”
Maybe one of you has been really busy. Maybe there's a fight that you just haven't gotten over. Maybe you don't feel like you know each other the same way you used to. If you've lost that connection, it's time to try to get it back. You don't need to panic — it happens — but it may be time to make it a priority. Because the way to save your relationship is by getting close to — and comfortable with — your partner again. And that will take work and time.
So start making some time to reconnect. Put your phone away (or at the very least on silent) and try these date nights: