Unless you're the type of person who's truly comfortable in your own skin, revealing your true personality to others can take some time. But according to experts, asking the right questions will help you get there faster. Whether you're on a first date or taking a new co-worker out for lunch, there are some questions you can ask to help bring out their personality.
"Many of us have learned very early on how we are supposed to or 'should' behave, which means we're scared to be fully our authentic self," licensed psychologist Sue Sexton, tells Bustle. "In order to prevent further rejection or judgment of who we are, we take on roles and role playing, in order to play it safe."
It's why some people have a hard time letting their personality shine when they meet new people. They don't want their true selves to be rejected. So instead, they go into their shell.
But you can help someone out of it by connecting with them. Think big talk over small talk, William Haynes, founder of Friendship Hacks tells Bustle. "Try to find unique talking points to create memorable conversations," he says. "This means thinking outside of the box and avoiding those 'boring' questions and topics. Asking questions they may not expect to hear, but that still help find similarities."
So here are some interesting questions you can ask someone to help bring out their personality, according to experts.