7 Questions To Ask Yourself And Your Partner To See How Well You Know Each Other
Finding ways to strengthen your relationship is the key to making it last. While there are so many different things you can do, building a love map for your relationship can be just the thing that will keep your connection strong for a long time. The best part is, creating a love map will help take your relationship to a much deeper, and more intimate level.
Love maps, which were created by Dr. John Gottman, are about knowing your partner's "inner world." As licensed marriage and family therapist, Elizabeth Earnshaw, tells Bustle, "The happiest and most successful couples have a foundation of friendship, and friendship means feeling known. Hence, our need for love maps."
According to her, having a map of your partner's inner world means that you are aware of three components: the life that brought them up to this point, their present, and their hopes for the future. "Getting to know your partner deeply means that you are drawing a map of their life in your mind and that you are continually updating this map as time goes by," Earnshaw says. This entails a "culture of turning towards each other in daily life," which includes responding to your partner's "bids" to connect or listening to them when they need to vent.
So here are some questions you can ask yourself or your partner to see how well you know each other, according to experts.