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7 Sex Positions To Try When You're Not Feeling Creative
Simple, but effective.
If you’ve been in a relationship for a bit — or a very long while — you probably know that it’s important to keep things fresh in the bedroom. Instead of doing the same two positions every time you get busy, you might switch things up, try something new, share fantasies, or experiment a little.
That said, it’s also OK to go back to your tried-and-true moves, especially when you aren’t feeling particularly energized, acrobatic, or creative. You can’t be a sexual provocateur every night of your life. In fact, that sounds exhausting.
Whether you’re tired from work, feeling lazy on a Sunday morning, or just looking for something quick and easy, there are plenty of simple sex poses that you can keep on the docket.
"People often tell me they run out of ideas when it's time to try something new in the bedroom," Julie Jeske, a sex and relationship counselor, tells Bustle. If you feel like you and your partner are coming up empty one night, that’s when you can pull out these moves, and still have great sex, even if you’re not feeling particularly imaginative.
Here are some great sex positions that you can try, even when you’re not feeling that creative, because good sex doesn’t have to be complicated.
1Spooning
How To Do It:
This position is really simple — you assume the same spooning position you would while cuddling, but place your hips slightly higher on the bed than your partner’s. Lift your top leg a little bit to help guide them inside you.
Why It’s Great:
Not only does this position give you plenty of opportunity for clit play and G-spot stimulation, it’s also really easy to do once you get into it. If it isn’t one of your go-to positions, then it should feel exciting. The real draw, though, is that it doesn’t require much effort.
2Lotus
How To Do It:
While your partner sits cross-legged, slowly lower yourself down on top of them. Once you’re both comfortable, you can wrap your arms and legs around each other.
Why It’s Great:
Another position that's perfect for when you’re feeling lazy, it provides real intimacy and a connection to your partner. It’s tricky to get into but easy to maintain, so enjoy the rocking and grinding.
3One Person On Top
How To Do It:
Think of the traditional cowgirl position, with you on top and straddling your partner, but have them lean against the wall or the back of the bed instead. They can also bend their knees to bring you closer to them.
Why It’s Great:
A simple twist on this classic position can bring a whole new sensation. The focus is on grinding and moving slowly, rather than the wild ride of cowgirl, so you can take things at your own pace and really get into it.
4X Marks The Spot
How To Do It:
Lie on the edge of the bed (or even a table) and rest your legs on your partner’s shoulders as they stand before you. For a little something extra, cross your legs at your knees or ankles to play with different fits and feelings.
Why It’s Great:
This position is a great way to incorporate some new angles and views, without having to think too outside the box. You also have a lot of opportunity for clit play, nipple play, or even a toy.
5Sofa Brace
How To Do It:
Think doggy style, but in this version you’re resting your torso on the arm of the couch — or using your arms to brace yourself.
Why It’s Great:
This pose not only provides a fun twist on doggy — and one that’s slightly less intense — it’s also a great way to bring your sex life somewhere other than the bedroom. A simple change like that can really help make things feel fresh, even when you’re sleepy or low-energy.
6Face To Face
How To Do It: Both of you lay on your sides, facing each other — try to keep your hips higher up than your partners and then rest one leg over the top of them as you guide them inside of you. You may need lube or to make a few adjustments, so don’t stress out if it takes a few tries.
Why It’s Great: This position is really straightforward, but it’s also one that’s often overlooked. It’s a perfect choice for when you’re feeling a little lazy, but also want something a little different — and, if you want to incorporate a vibe, even better.
7Weak In The Knees
How To Do It:
This position is brilliant in its simplicity. One of you lies back and the other straddles — making it an awesome position for oral, without the neck strain.
Why It’s Great:
If you’re not feeling that creative, try investing time in non-penetrative sex for a twist. Spending some more time on oral, playing with toys, or exploring each other can help reignite the flame while feeling amazing.
Even if you're not bursting with sexual imagination every second of the day, you can still have a fun, exciting sex life. Just keep some of these positions in mind, and you'll always be able to mix things up.
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