When you're in a long-term relationship, it's hard not to think of a future with your significant other, especially if it's going well. However, if the idea of being with your partner forever makes you feel uneasy, you might want to look for some signs that your long-time partner might not actually be a good spouse. You might love your partner and find that things are working out in the present, but that doesn't necessarily mean you're meant to be with them for the long-haul.
One of the most important factors that determine if someone who is a good partner will also be a good spouse is the expectations of the marriage that both people have before they move forward," says relationship therapist Sarah E. Clark, LMFT, LMHC, CVRT over email. "If people’s expectations of their partner are the same as those they would have of a spouse, then the relationship doesn’t change much when they get married. However, most people have expectations, even ones that they are unaware of, of what marriage should be and what a spouse should do. It’s important for both people to really explore their expectations of marriage and discuss them with each other to determine if they should take that step."
Figuring out your future can feel scary, but it's helpful to know what to look out for when deciding on your relationship's longevity. Here are seven signs that someone who is a good long-term partner may not exactly be the best spouse for you.