When you're in a long-term relationship, kissing may no longer seem like such a huge deal. You may give your partner a peck on the lips every now and then without even thinking about it. It's just something you're used to doing. But according to experts, if you are a bit concerned with your kissing frequency, it may be time to get a little more intentional with your kissing. Because even if you don't realize it, kissing is important for making your relationship last.
"On a scale of one to 10, with one being not important at all and 10 being absolutely essential for survival, I would give kissing a nine or maybe even a 9.5," Jane Reardon, licensed therapist and founder of RxBreakup, tells Bustle. "Particularly as time wears on, kissing signifies a continued effort on both sides of the partnership to stay emotionally close and physically intimate." It sets your relationship apart from the ones you have with friends and other people.
Overall, it's important to be on the same page as your partner in regards to showing physical affection in the relationship. "Kissing, holding hand, and cuddling are small, yet very important to keeping a deeper connection with your partner," psychologist Kelsey M. Latimer, PhD, CEDS-S, founder of Hello Goodlife, tells Bustle, "Without it, you may just have a friendship at best and can find yourself drifting apart."
So here are some ways to tell if you and your partner may not kiss as much as you'd like, according to experts.