If you're not sure whether you're ready to define the relationship, make sure you think hard before you do. You need to be really careful to get any unanswered questions out of the way and learn all you need to know before you get there — because it will be a lot harder to deal with unexpected surprises once you've committed to something. Between how you feel about open relationships to how much alone time you need — not to mention your general life plans — there's a lot of ground to cover. Make sure that you ground yourself in reality before jumping in with that honeymoon feeling.
But along with asking these questions, you need to be prepared to share part of yourself too. You can't expect to receive without giving anything, especially when it comes to intimacy and learning about each other. "I always recommend that you give to get," dating, relationship and lifestyle expert Steven Ward tells Bustle. "Be vulnerable to see vulnerable. Be open to see open. If you want to get closer to someone tell them something that very few, if any, other people know."
So don't think of these as aggressive questions — think of them as a jumping off point for a conversation. It'll help both of you learn what you need to know about each other in order to decide if you're ready to take the next steps.